Monday, June 24, 2013

STRESS MANAGEMENT - Do You Know Your Unhappiness Creators?

Do You Know Your Unhappiness Creators?
Inspirational Musings

I first learnt about Swami Vivekananda, sometime in the 1960’s, when I was a small boy and my father had taken us to visit Belur Math near Kolkata. 

At Belur Math I acquired a tiny pocket book called “Thus Spake Vivekananda”.

Whenever the chips were down, or I felt dejected, I referred to the inspiring gems of wisdom, distilled from the complete works of Swami Vivekanada, for instant motivation and strength.

Here is one of those gems of wisdom, a phrase from the sayings of Swami Vivekananda :
Anything that makes you weak physically, intellectually, and spiritually, reject as poison
I feel that the word “weak” is all encompassing.

The term “weak” embraces anything that creates in you a stressful situation.

This includes all negative emotions and feelings like anger, irritation, fury, worry, anxiety, frustration, despondency, depression, demoralization and, most importantly, unhappiness.

These negative emotions disturb your inner tranquility and equanimity, drains you emotionally and intellectually, and make you feel “weak” just like physical weakness.

Oh yes, unhappiness is Weakness, unhappiness is Poison 
Now sit down in a quiet tranquil place, close your eyes, introspect, and try to think of all the things that make you feel negative,

Reflect and introspect on all your unhappiness-creators and unhappy situations.

These unhappiness creators can be anything, for example:

Toxic and incompatible persons, who irritate, annoy and hassle you
Foods and beverages (like Alcoholwhich don’t suit you and are physically detrimental to your health and well-being
Activities, social and personal, which may appear pleasurable, but which actually drain you out
Technology and Gadgets, like your cell-phone, which disturb your peace of mind

Strained Relationships, which are a source of unhappiness and cause stress in you

things that cause a guilty conscience in you

and persons and activities which are a stimulus for negative emotions like anger, worry, fear, etc

Close your eyes, introspect and think.

Think about all the persons and things that generate negative vibes, create stress and unhappiness in you or make you feel “weak”. 

Then, follow Swami Vivekananda's advice: 

Anything that makes you weak physically, intellectually, and spiritually, reject as poison 

Yes, you can do it in actual life.

Make an exhaustive list of all the things that make you “weak” and try to reject them as “poison”.  
At first you may be a bit skeptical about this approach.

But when you start implementing, you’ll be surprised how much it is in your own control to prevent unhappiness.

While, on the one hand, you reject the things that make you weak and unhappy, simultaneously you must also reinforce the things that make you feel strong and happy.  

Yes, if unhappiness is weakness”, happiness is strength.
So simultaneously, reflect and contemplate.

Make a list of things and persons that give you strength and joy and make you happy and productive.

Include all the things and people that create positive feelings in you.

Then try to devote as much time and energy to doing these positive things and interacting with these morale boosting people that give you strength and make you feel good and happy.  
To put it in a nutshell:

1. Try your best to generate happiness vibes by doing things which make you “strong” and happy 

2. Try to reduce or even eliminate negative unhappiness vibes by rejecting” things which make you weak” and unhappy. 

Implementing this inspiring gem of wisdom from Swami Vivekananda is breathtaking in its simplicity. 

Try it - it works for me and I am sure it will work for you.

Wish you a stress-free life filled with happiness.

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