Wednesday, June 12, 2013

LOVE or TRUST - Which is Greater

Musings on a Quote

To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved 

George MacDonald 

Love and Trust are two different things.

Love does not ipso facto imply Trust.

You may love someone but you may not trust that person.

Conversely, you may trust someone but you may not love that person.

A man may be madly in love with a woman, but he may not trust her.

In fact, many persons are suspicious of the persons whom they love and keep tabs on them. 

Haven’t you seen so many husbands who do not trust their beautiful wives whom they love so much (and vice versa).

I have heard that, even in marriage relationships, some spouses are so secretive, suspicious and mistrustful that they do not let the other spouse see their mobile phones.

Someone told me that arranged marriages based on trust survive more than love marriages where spouses are suspicious of each other.

You may agree. You may not.
But one thing is sure - as the quote says:

To be Trusted is a greater compliment than being Loved 

This is true in all relationships. 

Trust is the foundation that creates and bonds strong relationships. 

I have observed this in my relationship with my pet dog Sherry too. 

Sherry loves everyone in my family, but as far as trust is concerned, she implicitly trusts me. 

That she is a “One Man Dog” is clearly visible to everyone. 

One example is that when she is in pain she will only allow me to go near her and touch her wherever I want, including the part of the body where the wound or pain is. 

Sherry has growled, snapped, and even occasionally nipped, at my wife and kids.

But Sherry has never ever growled at me. 

Of course, she loves them, but she trusts me.

Yes, my pet dog Sherry loves my wife and children, but she trusts me.

And that is what matters most.

Of course, the fact that trust is a greater compliment than love is true of human relationships as well.

Dear Reader, think of your life experiences, reflect, and tell us whether you have observed this fact of life? 

Do you agree with the saying: 

To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved 

Dear Reader: Do comment and tell us your views.

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Unknown said...

I was always confused in this context.. I always thought that love is present where there is trust but reading your post made me think the other way round. Impressive!!!
Nice post!!!

Debarati said...

Surely !! Trust is much important in any relatioship