The concept of the Johari Window is relatively simple.
Assume that you are the wife (self).
There are things about yourself that you know and there are things about yourself that you don’t know.
Also, there are things about you that your husband knows and there are things about you that your husband does not know.
Now it is the same with your husband (other).
There are things about himself that he knows and there are things about himself that he does not know.
Also, there are things about him that you know and there are things about him that you don’t know.
Now put yourself in the place of Self and put your husband in the place of Other and have a look at the picture below (called Johari Window based on contraction of the names Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham who developed this tool to help people understand and improve their interpersonal relationships).
The TRUST in a relationship is directly proportional to the OPEN Area
The other areas (HIDDEN, BLIND AND UNKNOWN) are sources of TRUST DEFICIT.
Hence, in order to enhance TRUST and reduce TRUST DEFICIT all you have to do is to increase the OPEN area (also called Arena) and reduce the HIDDEN Area (also called Facade) by Disclosure (Telling) and also reduce the BLIND area (also called Blind Spot) by obtaining Feedback (Asking).
The UNKNOWN Area will also start reducing over time as the bonds of your mutual relationships become stronger and stronger and you get to know each other better and better.
TELL (disclosure) each other and ASK (feedback) each other and COMMUNICATE(give yourself interactive TIME together) to reduce the hidden, blind and unknown areas respectively.
Here is how the Johari Windows will look Before and After :
JOHARI WINDOW AT THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP
[Open Area or Arena Represents TRUST and the other three areas (Blind, Facade, Unknown) represent TRUST DEFICIT]
JOHARI WINDOW AFTER YOU WORK ON THE RELATIONSHIP
[Notice how the Open Area of Arena (TRUST) has increased and the other three areas (TRUST DEFICIT) are reduced]
So now you know what you must do in order to reduce Trust Deficit in a relationship.
Whether it is a home or at work or any other relationship.
Just sit together and work on JOHARI Window.
Both of you must use Self Disclosure and Feedback to enhance Mutual Trust and reduce Trust Deficit and consequently improve your relationship.
After you succeed in a one-on-one (two person) situation, you can extend this technique to multiple participants too.
This works for me.
Why don’t you try out the JOHARI WINDOW and see if it works for you.
Try it out with your boss and colleagues at work.
If you are in the service industry try it out with your customers, and if you are in business, try it out in your business relationships.
Try it out at home with your spouse and kids.
If you are in a relationship, try it out with your boyfriend or girlfriend while dating and courting and having a relationship.
When you make friends, remember that deep friendships based on Mutual Trust are more enduring and truly fulfilling than superficial “Hail-Fellow-Well-Met” type of casual friendships.
Did it work?
Did the Johari Window Technique help build trust and reduce trust deficit?
What was your experience?
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