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Sunday, August 19, 2018

How to be Happy – Inspirational Wisdom

HOW TO BE HAPPY
INSPIRATIONAL WISDOM FROM SWAMI VIVEKANANDA
By
VIKRAM KARVE

I have always been inspired by the teachings and writings of Swami Vivekananda (12 January 1863 – 4 July 1902).

I first learned about Swami Vivekananda – sometime in the 1960’s – when I was a small boy – and my father had taken us to visit Belur Math near Kolkata (then called Calcutta). 

At Belur Math – I acquired a tiny pocket book called “Thus Spake Vivekananda”.

Whenever the chips were down 
– or I felt dejected – I referred to the inspiring gems of wisdom – distilled from the complete works of Swami Vivekananda – for instant motivation and strength.

On the occasion of his birth anniversary – let me tell you about my favourite saying of Swami Vivekananda – which inspired me – and which I try to implement in my day-to-day living. 


AN INSPIRATIONAL GEM OF WISDOM FROM SWAMI VIVEKANANDA
Here is an inspirational gem of wisdom, a phrase, from the sayings of Swami Vivekananda:
 
“Anything that makes you weak physically, intellectually, and spiritually – reject as poison”
 
I feel that the word “weak” is all-encompassing.

The term “weak” embraces anything that creates in you a stressful situation.

Thus – “weakness” includes all negative emotions – and negative feelings like anger, irritation, fury, worry, anxiety, frustration, despondency, depression, demoralization etc – in a nutshell – any emotion that causes you unhappiness.

These negative emotions disturb your inner tranquility and equanimity – they drain you emotionally and intellectually – and make you feel “weak” – just like physical weakness. 


UNHAPPINESS IS WEAKNESS

Unhappiness is a negative emotion which drains you emotionally, mentally and physically.

Hence – Unhappiness is Weakness.

Unhappiness is “Poison for the soul.

Conversely – Happiness” is Strength.

Happiness is “Tonic” for the soul.

Now – Dear Reader – how do you “reject as poison” – the “weakness” of unhappiness...?

The first step is to identify your “Unhappiness Creators”. 


IDENTIFY YOUR UNHAPPINESS CREATORS

Now sit down in a quiet tranquil place – close your eyes – introspect – and try to think of all the things that make you feel negative, unhappy and stressed out. 

Yes – think of all the things and people that create negative emotions within you. 

Reflect and introspect on all your “unhappiness-creators” and unhappy situations. 

These unhappiness creators can be anything – tangible and intangible – things, activities, persons etc.

“Unhappiness Creators” include:

1. Toxic individuals and incompatible persons – who irritate, annoy and hassle you.
 
2. Foods and Beverages – which do not suit you – and which are physically detrimental to your health and well-being.
 
3. Activities – social and personal – which may initially appear pleasurable – but which actually drain you out.
 
4. Technology and Gadgets – like your cell-phone – which disturb your peace of mind.

5. Strained Relationships – which are a source of unhappiness and cause you stress and anger.

6. Any activity – or a thing – that causes a guilty conscience within you

7. Disagreeable Persons and Unpleasant Activities – which are a stimulus for negative emotions – like anger, worry, fear, etc – and create negative vibes within you.

Dear Reader – Please close your eyes – introspect – and think about all aspects of your life – your work life – your home life – your social life.

Think about all the persons, activities and things that generate negative vibes, create stress and unhappiness in you – all the things that make you feel “weak”. 

Then – follow Swami Vivekananda's advice: 

Anything that makes you weak – physically, intellectually, and spiritually – reject as poison 

Yes – you can do it in actual life.

Just “reject” all these “poisonous” things and people – by avoiding them as far as possible.

Make an exhaustive list of all your 
“unhappiness creators” – all the things and people that make you “weak” - and try to reject them as “poison”.  
 
At first – you may be a bit skeptical about this approach.

But – when you start implementing this “mantra” in your day-to-day life – you will be surprised by the extent to which it is in your own control to prevent unhappiness.


SAY “NO” TO UNHAPPINESS CREATORS and “WELCOME” HAPPINESS CREATORS

While – on the one hand:

You “reject” the things that make you “weak” and unhappy

simultaneously – on the other hand:

You must “reinforce” the things that make you feel “strong” and happy

Say “NO” to UNHAPPINESS CREATORS

Say “YES” to HAPPINESS CREATORS  

Yes – if unhappiness is “weakness” – then happiness is “strength”.
 
So – simultaneously – reflect and contemplate.

Make a list of things and persons that give you strength and joy – and make you happy and productive.

In your “Happiness Creators” list – include all the things and people that create “positive feelings” in you. 

Then – try to devote maximum time and energy towards doing these positive things – and interacting with these morale-boosting people – that give you strength – and make you feel good and happy.  


MANTRA FOR HAPPINESS (and UNHAPPINESS) - IN A NUTSHELL
 
To put it in a nutshell :– 

If you want to be happy:

1. Try your best to generate happiness vibes by doing things which make you “strong” and happy 

2. Try to reduce or even eliminate negative unhappiness vibes by “rejecting” things which make you “weak” and unhappy. 

But – if you want to be unhappy – just do the opposite: 

Keep wallowing in “negative vibes” by encouraging your “unhappiness creators” and avoiding your happiness creators.


HOW TO CREATE HAPPINESS or UNHAPPINESS

Whenever I feel unhappy – I realize that it is because I have allowed myself to be overwhelmed by my “unhappiness creators”.

And – the moment I envelop myself with my “happiness creators” – I start feeling happy.

Remember this saying of Swami Vivekananda:

Anything that makes you “weak” – physically, intellectually, and spiritually – reject as poison 

Conversely – I say: 

Anything that makes you feel “strong” – imbibe as nectar

Implementing this inspiring gem of wisdom from Swami Vivekananda in your life is breathtaking in its simplicity. 

Try it – experiment – discover your “happiness creators” and “unhappiness creators”.

Start making your two lists: 

1. Your “happiness creators” list 

2. Your “unhappiness creators” list 

And then – you know what to do.

This works for me – and I am sure it will work for you. 

I do feel stressed out and unhappy at times – but I know why – and I know what to do. 

So – I try my best to make my “unhappiness creators” disappear – and I overwhelm myself with “happiness creators”.

Wish you a stress-free life filled with happiness.

VIKRAM KARVE
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Updated, Abridged and Revised version of my article written more than 25 years ago and http://karvediat.blogspot.com/2018/01/inspirational-tonic-from-swami.html and  https://karve.wordpress.com/2017/01/12/inspirational-wisdom-from-swami-vivekananda/ etc

Saturday, December 31, 2016

New Year’s Resolution 2017 – I Will “Flower” Where God Has Planted Me

New Year’s Resolution 2017
You must know how to Flower where God has Sown You
Inspirational Pep Talk
By
VIKRAM KARVE

I learnt more about the Art of Living by reading good literature – rather than from hearing sermons and moral lectures – or from high-falutin philosophy or spiritualism.

One thing good about the Navy is that it inculcated and fostered the reading habit in me.

I read a lot of sea stories and novels like The Cruel Sea, The Caine Mutiny, Run Silent Run Deep, HMS Ulysses, Tales of the South Pacific  and so many more.

One sea novel I like very much is THE CAPTAIN by Jan De Hartog

In this story – the protagonist is a Merchant Navy Officer who is frustrated because – owing to reasons beyond his control – he gets stuck in Tugs whereas he wants to sail in the main fleet.

Seeing his frustration – his Tug Captain gives him a maxim:

“ Ou Dieu vous a seme – il faut savoir fleurir ” 

which roughly translated means

“ You must know how to flower where God has sown you ” 

or

“ wherever God plants you – there you must learn how to bloom ”

The young Merchant Navy Officer takes this to heart – he works very hard on the Tug – and then – he works with dedication, sincerity and devotion to duty throughout his career on Tugs.

In due course – he becomes the most famous sea-going Tug Captain – and ultimately the owner of flourishing company with a huge fleet of ocean going tugs.

Inspired by this book – I too tried my best to imbibe this philosophy in my life – especially in my Naval Career – and – I tried my best to “flower” wherever the Navy posted me.

It is good philosophy to apply in your life:

“Wherever God plants you – there you must learn how to flower and bloom...”


“LIKE IT” OR “LUMP IT”

If you do not get what you like – then – you must learn to like what you get – and – you must make the most of it 

Like they say in the Navy:

If you don’t like it – just lump it.

“Like it” or “Lump it” 

There is another saying I read a few years ago:

If life gives you a lemon – make lemonade.

Yes – when life gives you a “lemon” – use that “lemon” and make “lemonade” – instead of cribbing and carping – wallowing in self pity – becoming bitter and spreading bitterness – and making your own life hell and everyone else’s life miserable.

Like they say in NLP :

There is no such thing as “failure” 

There is only “learning experience”

So – metaphorically – the “lemon” is the failure – and – the “lemonade” is the learning experience.

And this “learning experience” will enable you to “flower” and “bloom” wherever you are “sown” or “planted”

Well – I have tried to follow this mantra: “ Ou Dieu vous a seme – il faut savoir fleurir ”  

When I was in the Navy – wherever the Navy transferred me – to whatever job they assigned me – whether they promoted me or not – I tried not to get disillusioned or demoralized – and in my own inimitable style – I tried to do my best to “flower” and “bloom” wherever I was “sown” or “planted”. 

Yes – I made “lemonade” with all the “lemons” the Navy gave me.

I am trying to do this after my retirement too – trying to “flower” and “bloom” in the back-of-beyond lonely place called Wakad, near Pune – where God has planted me after my retirement. 

That is one of the reasons you are reading this Blog.

Yes – the result of all this “flowering” and “blooming” is this prolific Blog and the couple of books I have written. 

Well – I am going to “flower” and “bloom” away and “bash on regardless” with my Blogging and Writing – since this is the best thing I can do where God has planted me. 

God has given me the “lemon” of loneliness. 

And – from this “lemon” of loneliness – I have made the “lemonade” of my blogs and my books and all my writing.

Have a good day - whatever “lemons” you get today – just keep making “lemonade” and enjoy every drop of it.

Sometimes you may feel a sense of “failure” – you may feel that you have “failed” in life.

There is no such thing as “failure” – it is all in the mind.

And still if you feel a sense of “failure” – think of “failure” as a “lemon” – and make “lemonade”.

Talking of the “lemon” of “failure” – let me tell you one thing I have learnt from my own life experiences.

Sometimes – failure is good

You can take my word for it.

Remember the maxim:

“ Ou Dieu vous a seme – il faut savoir fleurir ”  

(wherever God plants you – there you must learn how to flower and bloom)

Apply this to your life – and you will “flower and bloom” wherever you are.

Dear Reader: 

Wish you a Very Happy New Year 2017 

May you “flower and bloom” wherever God has planted you.

VIKRAM KARVE
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1. These are my personal views. Please do your own due diligence while selecting a philosophy of life.
2. All stories in this blog are a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the stories are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

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