Friday, April 13, 2012


Friday Morning Musing

Are you a result oriented person?


Are you obsessed with the “return” you get when you invest” your “resources”?

If your answer is yes, then why don’t you try to adopt a different philosophical approach to life. 

Here is a saying from Lao-tzu from Tao Te Ching:

Fill your bowl to the brim and it will spill.
Keep sharpening your knife and it will blunt.
Chase after money and security and your heart will never unclench.
Care about other people's approval and you will be their prisoner.
Do your work, then step back.
The only path to serenity.

--Lao-tzu, Tao Te Ching, ch. 9

Yes, that is the key - Do your work, then step back.

Or better still, let Chapter 2 Verse 47 of The Bhagavad Gita be your guide:

karmany evadhikarass te maphalesu kadacana ma karma-phala-hetur bur ma te sango stv akarmani 

(Seek to perform your duty; but lay not claim to its fruits. You have a right to perform your prescribed action, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your action. Never consider yourself the cause of the results your activities, but neither should you avoid doing your duty).

So that’s the moral of the story, isn’t it: 

Always do your best without expecting results and you will be happy.

In today’s materialistic world, when you invest your money you expect a return on your investment (ROI). 

Some persons apply this ROI theory to other domains of their lives as well. 

For example, they feel that if they invest in a relationship, especially marriage, they must get good returns on their investment (ROI). 

As far as any relationship is concerned, especially marriage, it is best to adopt the following philosophy: 

No Expectations, No Disappointments, Happy Marriage.

So, Dear Reader, forget Quid Pro Quo, just do what you want to do and step back. 

Do not expect anything in return. 

Just do something for the sake of doing that something. 

Do it because you want to do it. 

Do it because you enjoy doing it. 

Do it because it makes you feel good when you do it. Remember what Ernest Hemingway said: What is moral is what you feel good after, and what is immoral is what you feel bad after. If you feel good after you do something (or you feel good in a relationship) then it is moral and if you feel bad doing something (or have a guilty conscience in a relationship) then you know it is immoral.

But always remember, do not have expectations of a return on your investment. If you do a good deed, do not expect gratitude or any material benefit in return. If you give love in a relationship, do not expect the love to be reciprocated. Just do what you want to do and forget about the results

Remember, if you have no expectations you will have no disappointments.

Enjoy your Friday and have a great weekend.

Copyright © Vikram Karve 2012
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A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer. Educated at IIT Delhi, ITBHU Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and he is currently working on his novel. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles in magazines and journals for many years before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for almost 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing. Vikram lives in Pune India with his family and muse - his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts. 

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