Friday, March 30, 2012

The Six Secrets of a Healthy Marriage

From my Archives here is something I once wrote for the Marriagewise Blog

6 Secrets of a Healthy Marriage

This is a guest post written by my friend Mr. Vikramji. You can read about all his accomplishments at the end of this article. I am an admirer of his straight to the point style of writing and he was one of the first supporters of this blog and MarriageWise project. One of his latest articles has also motivated me to quit smoking so I have a lot to thank him for. 
Here are six ways that you can keep your marriage healthy according to Vikram Karve :-
1. There is no place for secrets between husband and wife. Trust is the bedrock of marriage. Unconditional love is born from total trust and leads to marital bliss. Even a small seed of mistrust can germinate into a huge tree of distrust and cause marital discord. Trust deficit can eventually ruin your marriage relationship.
2. There is place for only two persons in a marriage. Do not allow relatives, friends to transgress into your unique marital space.
3. There is no place for “social graces” or fake emotions in a marriage. Within your marriage, express your emotions frankly and freely. If you do not like something, say so. Your spouse is your closet friend and confidante. Mutual behaviour between husband and wife must be genuine, full of no-holds-barred candour, and fully transparent. You must bare yourself totally before your spouse. You must have unrestrained passion in your marriage. Leave the social graces, soft-spoken politeness and contrived geniality bit when dealing with friends, relatives and colleagues.
4. Your marriage takes priority over parenting. Do your duty towards your children, but not at the cost of your married life. Remember, you are only a trustee towards your children but a lifelong partner to your spouse.
5. Ensure both togetherness and space in the marriage. To do this, both husband and wife must make a list of things they like doing. Activities that match, things you both like, do together. The items that do not match do separately.
6. Last but not the least; get a pet, preferably a pet dog, immediately after your honeymoon, especially if you have an arranged marriage. Pet parenting will cement and bond your marriage, and prepare you for parenting when your human children arrive.
Wish you a long married life.
And if you want to quit smoking (or want your spouse to) click the link below see how simple it is
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A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer. Educated at IIT Delhi, ITBHU Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories, creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional research papers in journals and edited in-house journals for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for almost 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing. Vikram lives in Pune India with his family and muse - his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

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Deepak S Avasare said...

First 5 points were very good and very essential. 6th one is not really essential(IMHO).


indu chhibber said...

Excellent advice except for the pet portion...all other points are not only doable but even essential.