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Does your self confidence depend on your mood and fluctuate from time to time depending on the situation or is it steadfast, unwavering and persistent?
Is your confidence level the same in all aspects of your life and with all people or does it depend on personal circumstances and who you are interacting with?
Does a crisis situation or adversity shake your confidence?
How do your perceive your own confidence level?
How do others perceive you – do they feel you are overconfident or underconfident?
Are you genuinely confident from inside or do you put an act, a fake mask of buoyancy, and make a pretence of outward confidence?
True confidence gives you a wonderful feeling of self-assurance, aplomb and dignity and is evident and can be seen in your poise and deportment.
The hallmarks of a genuinely confident person can be encapsulated in seven distinctive traits.
A truly confident person will possess a high degree of each of the seven attributes of confidence, so ask yourself these seven questions and check out for yourself how confident you really are.
THE SEVEN ASPECTS OF CONFIDENCE
1. DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF?
You cannot be a confident person unless you love yourself. Self-Love is the foundation of Self-Esteem which is a crucial sine qua non of confidence. How can you be confident if you are not happy with yourself, your very own body and your unique personality? Indeed you must first love all aspects of your own self.
2. DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF?
Confidence begins from within and when we love ourselves and do not seek the approval of others, we start believing in ourselves. Self-Belief makes your fearless and enables you to cope with crises because confident persons believe they have the power to handle their own lives whereas unconfident persons who do not believe in themselves always look for support and assurance from outside and try to seek help from others to deal with challenges in their own lives.
3. ARE YOU COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF?
To be truly confident, you must love yourself, believe in yourself and, most importantly, be comfortable with yourself. Yes, genuinely confident people are happy in their own skin and comfortable with themselves, as they are. They love who they are, they do not wish to be anyone else and they seek no one's approval to be whom they wish to be. Truly confident persons are immune from the disease to please . They are natural leaders with a strong sense of personal belonging who feel secure with themselves and who don’t blindly follow others or conform for the sake of conformance, but who chart their own course and inspire others to follow them.
4. ARE YOU AWARE OF YOURSELF?
Self-Awareness is a key aspect of confident persons as knowing your values, your strengths and limitations helps you in developing your personality, giving a direction to your life,enhancing your achievements and accomplishments and boosting your confidence.
5. ARE YOU FEARLESS?
Confident persons are not paralysed by fear – they rather act first and be afraid later. A fearless approach to life, willingness to take risks, try out new things, innovate and experiment, and a pioneering attitude are hallmarks of a confident person.
6. DO YOU HAVE A THIRST FOR LEARNING?
Truly confident people love to learn. They strive for continual improvement and have a thirst for knowledge in order to achieve continual growth. They are innovative, creative and try to make the most of their talents in order to realize their maximum potential because they believe in themselves which gives them the determination, tenacity and sense of purpose to keep going even when others have given up.
7. ARE YOU HAPPY WITH YOUR LIFE?
Confident persons are happy, here and now, as they are, with all aspects of their life in its entirety. They are content with whatever they have. Unhappiness and discontentment erode self-esteem and destroy your confidence. Happiness and contentment are a must for confidence, and that is why confident persons always exhibit cheerfulness and optimism and generate positive vibes.
So introspect and check out for yourself – how many of these seven confidence attributes do you have?
Discover your strengths, find out how confident you really are and where you need to improve.
A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer. Educated at IIT Delhi, ITBHU Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories, creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional research papers in journals and edited in-house journals for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for almost 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing. Vikram lives in Pune India with his family and muse - his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.