Thursday, June 28, 2012


People who drink to drown their sorrow should be told that sorrow knows how to swim
Ann Landers

Never Drink when you Need a Drink
One evening a friend of mine landed up at my place and said, “I’ve had a really terrible day at work. I need a drink.”

“I’ll get you a cup of tea,” I said.

“Tea…?” he exclaimed astounded, “haven’t you got some whiskey or something…I told you I’m feeling terrible…everything went wrong today…I desperately need a drink…”

“I know you are dying for a drink, craving, yearning, thirsting for that “soothing” sip of alcohol. That’s why you must not drink now. You must never drink when you need a drink,” I said.    

My friend pleaded but I didn’t budge and gave him a cup of tea which he drank with great reluctance, and then he walked off in a huff, calling me all sorts of names. He said that I was  a miser, a “good for nothing” friend, but I knew I had done the right thing.

Don’t drink when you need a drink.
Yes, don't drink when you want that drink. 
Don't touch a drop of alcohol when your mind or body craves for alcohol.

Sounds funny isn’t it...?

Let me try to elucidate.

Never drink when you need a drink.

Don’t touch the bottle when you are feeling any negative emotion like despondency, sadness, anger, irritation, envy, unhappiness, frustration, emotional pain, bad moods, down in the dumps feeling, or any negative vibes for the bottle will “unbottle” and release your pent up negative emotions and make you feel even more miserable and also spoil the mood of all those around you.

Let me tell you something I have observed in real life.

If you want to know the true character of a man, just get him drunk and what is hidden inside him will come out and his true inner self will be revealed.

Alcohol opens you up. That’s what alcohol does, isn’t it...?

Alcohol reduces inhibitions, makes you more talkative, more expansive and more expressive, loosens you up, and helps release, bring out and amplify your inner emotions, talents, passions, sentiments.

That’s why some persons become more creative after imbibing a drink or two since alcohol unleashes your inhibitions and releases the music, the poetry, the creativity hidden within you. 
If you are happy inside, after a few drinks you will start physically expressing your happiness boisterously and outwardly by laughing, cheer and bonhomie.
In high spirits, you may even articulate your secret unexpressed love, become amorous, romantic, try to realize your hidden desires and reveal without compunctions your inner secrets which otherwise you would never disclose when sober.  

But the converse is also true.

By reducing inhibitions, alcohol may bring out the worst in you by facilitating the release of pent up negative emotions like anger, envy, dejection, despondency, frustration and these unleashed amplified negative emotions may result in undesirable, unpleasant and even disastrous consequences.

Have you noticed how some people get violent, argumentative, rude or even melancholic, moody, sullen, depressed, unsociable after a few drinks...?

Dear Reader, in my opinion, the best thing is to be a teetotaler and not to have a drink at all, but if you must have a drink please do make sure that you are feeling positive vibes and are peaceful and happy inside and never drink when you desperately “need” that drink. Yes, do not touch alcohol when you are feeling depressed or low or angry or have negative emotions.

Remember this golden rule - If you must drink, always drink when you are happy, in good cheer and full of positive vibes

Remember: Never drink when you need a drink.

Copyright © Vikram Karve 2012
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Nan said...

So very aptly written of not to drink when the person is desperately craving for it. Great piece Sir! :)

Nan said...

So very aptly written of not to drink when the person is desperately craving for it. Great piece Sir! :)

Anonymous said...

Yes that is extremely right! Although I don't drink, I do share the same view towards drinking!

Hiten said...

Hi Vikram,

It's my first time at your blog.

I really enjoyed your post. I agree, when one needs a drink, this is the time one should resist it.

I personally don't drink that much. The thought of an hangover is enough to put me off!

Vikram Waman Karve said...

@ Nandini - you are right - whenever you crave that's the time you have to be careful

Vikram Waman Karve said...

@ Hiten - It is great you don't drink much - yes, drinking in a blue mood is a recipe for hangover