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Tuesday, March 19, 2013

SELF CONFIDENCE

ARE YOU A CONFIDENT PERSON

Check Out Your Confidence Level

VIKRAM KARVE

Do you feel confident?

Does your self confidence depend on your mood and fluctuate from time to time depending on the situation or is it steadfast, unwavering and persistent?

Is your confidence level the same in all aspects of your life and with all people or does it depend on personal circumstances and who you are interacting with?

Does a crisis situation or adversity shake your confidence?

How do your perceive your own confidence level?

How do others perceive you – do they feel you are overconfident or underconfident?

Are you genuinely confident from inside or do you put an act, a fake mask of buoyancy, and make a pretence of outward confidence?

True confidence gives you a wonderful feeling of self-assurance, aplomb and dignity and is evident and can be seen in your poise and deportment.

The hallmarks of a genuinely confident person can be encapsulated in seven distinctive traits.

A truly confident person will possess a high degree of each of the seven attributes of confidence, so ask yourself these seven questions and check out for yourself how confident you really are.

THE SEVEN ASPECTS OF SELF CONFIDENCE

1. DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF?

You cannot be a confident person unless you love yourself.

Self-Love is the foundation of Self-Esteem which is a crucial sine qua non of confidence.

How can you be confident if you are not happy with yourself, your very own body and your unique personality?

Indeed the first step towards self confidence is that you must first love all aspects of your own self.

2. DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF?

Confidence begins from within and when we love ourselves and do not seek the approval of others, we start believing in ourselves.

Self-Belief makes your fearless and enables you to cope with crises because confident persons believe they have the power to handle their own lives whereas unconfident persons who do not believe in themselves always look for support and assurance from outside and try to seek help from others to deal with challenges in their own lives.

3. ARE YOU COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF?

To be truly confident, you must love yourself, believe in yourself and, most importantly, be comfortable with yourself.

Yes, genuinely confident people are happy in their own skin and comfortable with themselves, as they are.

They love who they are, they do not wish to be anyone else and they seek no one's approval to be whom they wish to be.

Truly confident persons are immune from the disease to please and do not succumb to the log kya kahenge syndrome.

Confident persons are natural leaders with a strong sense of personal belonging who feel secure with themselves and who don’t blindly follow others or conform for the sake of conformance, but who chart their own course and inspire others to follow them.

4. ARE YOU AWARE OF YOURSELF?

Self-Awareness is a key aspect of confident persons as knowing your values, your strengths and limitations helps you in developing your personality, giving a direction to your life, enhancing your achievements and accomplishments and boosting your confidence.

5. ARE YOU FEARLESS?

Confident persons are not paralysed by fear – they rather act first and be afraid later.

A fearless approach to life, willingness to take risks, try out new things, innovate and experiment, and a pioneering attitude are hallmarks of a confident person.

6. DO YOU HAVE A THIRST FOR LEARNING?

Truly confident people love to learn.

They strive for continual improvement and have a thirst for knowledge in order to achieve continual growth.

They are innovative, creative and try to make the most of their talents in order to realize their maximum potential because they believe in themselves which gives them the determination, tenacity and sense of purpose to keep going even when others have given up.

7. ARE YOU HAPPY WITH YOUR LIFE?

Confident persons are happy, here and now, as they are, with all aspects of their life in its entirety. They are content with whatever they have.

Unhappiness and discontentment erode self-esteem and destroy your confidence.

Happiness and contentment are a must for genuine confidence, and that is why confident persons always exhibit cheerfulness and optimism and generate positive vibes.

Many individuals who are not very confident inside, and lack genuine self confidence, try to fake it and present an external picture of confidence by clever image management. But this causes stress due to the fear of being found out, and one day such charlatans are indeed exposed or suffer nervous breakdowns.

That is why you must strive to be genuinely self confident.

So introspect and check out for yourself – how many of these seven confidence attributes do you have?

Discover your strengths, find out how confident you really are and in which of these seven aspects do you need to improve.

I Wish You tons and tons of Confidence

And once you have achieved the desire confidence level, you can be your own hero and this will enable you to attain high SELF ESTEEM

http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/03/how-to-build-self-esteem.html

Do click the link above and read my blog post on Self-Esteem but remember to come back here and comment and give me your views and feedback.

VIKRAM KARVE

Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work.

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About Vikram Karve

A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer and blogger. Educated at IIT Delhi, IIT (BHU) Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and an anthology of short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional and academic research papers in journals and edited in-house journals and magazines for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing and blogging. Vikram Karve lives in Pune India with his family and muse - his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

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HOW TO BUILD SELF ESTEEM

SELF ESTEEM

Do You have Self-Esteem

VIKRAM KARVE

Self-Esteem is much more than Self-Confidence.

The word “esteem” is derived from the Latin word aestimare which means “to put a value on”.

Thus, your “Self Esteem” is the “value you put on yourself”.

Your self-esteem is your conviction that you are uniquely valuable.

When you have high self-esteem you will have the capacity to live creatively, stand by your values, beliefs and principles, and you will have the competence to accomplish something vital to your individuality.

Is it possible to assess self-esteem?

How do you recognize whether a person has self-esteem.

It is easy.

Persons with high self-esteem do not need to prove themselves.

Yes, if you have high self-esteem you do not feel the need to prove yourself to the outside world – you do not need to prove yourself to others.

Conversely persons with low self-esteem will be observed trying to prove themselves – they boast, put others down, show off, drop names, speak excessively and always talk about their themselves and try to hog the conversation, they keep telling you about their achievements and display snobbish behaviour.

People with low self-esteem are extremely self-conscious about their appearance and desperately fish for compliments and are unduly concerned about what other people think about them. They are desperate to create a good impression.

They may talk in an imperative tone of voice, try to pull rank and emphasize their authority and show-off their status, position or wealth, act in a boastful manner, always seem “keyed up” and move around in an excited manner as if in a perpetual hurry “to get the job done” and try to “dominate” others.

Look around your workplace and among your friends.

If you observe someone behaving in this way be sure that he or she has low self-esteem.

Close your eyes and recall some of your own interactions in the recent past, professional and social, at work and with your friends.

Imagine as if you have gone outside your body and you are watching yourself from the outside as you interact and converse with others.

Reflect and Introspect: Did you display any indicators of low self-esteem?

Remember, an important internal indicator of low self-esteem is that you feel excessively self-conscious as you try to "prove yourself" to others around you wondering what they think about you and this sometimes causes you to feel internally stressed-out.

You can recognize individuals with high self-esteem by their body language.

When they speak to you they make good eye contact and they are relaxed, calm, measured in movement, yet firm and decisive.

A person with good self-esteem will exhibit a quiet confidence and will not fish for compliments.

However, if you do compliment them they will calmly say “Thank You” and accept your compliment with politeness and humility.

They are honest, humble and modest and are genuinely interested in other people and their achievements.

They do not bother about external recognition as they have confidence in their own abilities.

Persons with high self esteem are always genuine and never “fake it”.

The bedrock of self-esteem is self-acceptance.

If you have high self-esteem you will accept yourself as you are and you will not indulge in “image management”.

Hence you will never be afraid of being “found out” since you will always project what you actually are since you don’t have to “prove yourself” to others.

People with low self-esteem are always desperate to “prove themselves” to the outside world and impress others.

Such persons often fall prey to image management techniques.

Since low self-esteem persons they try to project an exaggerated or contrived (fake) image of themselves they constantly live under the fear of being found out.

Do you want to enhance your self-esteem?

It is simple.

Just start liking yourself.

First accept yourself as you are and then learn to like yourself.

Don’t bother about proving yourself to others.

Take pride in your individuality.

Be your own hero.

Start enjoying yourself, be proud of yourself, and when you feel you have done something good, don’t seek praise from others but reward yourself for what you do and praise yourself.

Remember to do this in all aspects of your life – at work and in your personal life as well.

Continual self-evaluation, self-acceptance and self-reward will produce a paradigm shift in your behaviour from being other-directed to being inner-directed.

As you build up your self-esteem you will develop a strong sense of self.

You will start liking yourself and will start believing in yourself.

On the other hand, if you do not learn to reinforce yourself and if you succumb to the temptations of image management to seek approval of others and get obsessed with “proving yourself” you may slip and fall into the downward spiral of low self-esteem.

I will end with a quote from Samuel Butler:

The advantage of doing one’s praising for oneself is that one can lay it on so thick and exactly in the right places

VIKRAM KARVE

Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work.

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