Divorce is Not An Option – Marriage Mantra

DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION
Marriage Mantra 
By
VIKRAM KARVE 

We – my wife and I – we got married on 30 May 1982. 

Soon – on 30 May 2017 – we will complete 35 years of married life – and we will enter the 36^th year of our marriage. 

Ours was an arranged marriage. 

There was no “love” involved. 

We are certainly not a “made for each other” couple. 

In fact – we were – and we still are – a terribly incompatible couple. 

Our marriage is perpetually “on the rocks”. 

We survive marriage on a day-to-day basis. 

I remember a true story that happened just before our marriage in May 1982. 

We had gone to IAT Pune to invite my Navy Friends to our wedding (my Navy friends were doing a post-graduate course in IAT – where I became an Instructor/Professor later). 

The wife of a friend – a lady who knew me closely – she observed my “would-be-wife” carefully. 

She commented to her husband that “our marriage would not last for even 10 days...” 

Yes – she said that our marriage would not last for even 10 days...

My friend landed up on our 10^th wedding anniversary on 30 May 1992 – with a bottle of champagne – and he made his wife eat her words.

But – what the lady had said – her prophesy that our marriage would not last for even 10 days– it did have a ring of truth in it. 

My wife and I are indeed an incongruous couple– we are poles apart in all aspects. 

We have huge differences of opinion on almost all matters – we fight a lot – we criticize each other – we shout at each other – we never hide our feelings – especially when we don’t like something – and we call a spade a spade.

We don’t indulge in lovey-dovey Public Displays of Affection (PDA) – and – we don’t indulge in “niceties” – like giving each other gifts – or celebrating occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. 

Ours may be a rather volatile and “loveless” relationship – but there is nothing fake about our relationship.

In these modern times – when even passionate “love marriages” breakup and end in divorce – why is it that our rather prosaic “incompatible” marriage has stood the test of time...?

There is just one reason.

Both my wife and I were always clear about one thing:

“DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION” 

That is our “Marriage Mantra”: Divorce is Not An Option

VIKRAM KARVE

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Repost of my story DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION posted online earlier at url: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/05/divorce-is-not-option.html