WHY YOU BEHAVE AS YOU DO
Musings on Human Behaviour
By
VIKRAM KARVE
You
see a man driving his car very fast, quite dangerously.
You
wonder why he is doing so, why he is behaving in this reckless way.
Well,
there can be many reasons for his behaviour.
Maybe
he is driving fast to experience a sense of thrill (to satisfy his need for
excitement).
Or
he may be driving fast to save time (to satisfy his need for urgency) or to reach
his destination in time (to satisfy his need for punctuality).
The
same action may have different motives depending on the need you want to
satisfy at that point of time.
This
is one simple example, but all your behaviour is governed by your intrinsic
motivation to satisfy your needs.
Motivation
is a psychological drive that arouses you to act in a certain way to achieve
your desired goal which is satisfaction of your needs.
Thus,
motivation is the psychological driving force that stimulates goal directed behaviour
towards your desired goal.
Remember:
Your desired goal is the “satisfaction of your need”.
For
example, hunger is a motivation that elicits a desire to eat and satisfies your
need for food, or, at a very basic level, your need for survival.
SIXTEEN (16) BASIC
NEEDS THAT INFLUENCE HUMAN BEHAVIOUR
According
to Professor Steven Reiss there are 16 basic desires or needs that guide nearly
all human behaviour.
Here
is the list of 16 basic needs that influence your behaviour (in alphabetical
order):
1.
Acceptance, the need for approval
2.
Curiosity, the need to learn
3.
Eating, the need for food
4.
Family, the need to raise children
5.
Honour, the need to be loyal to the traditional values of your country/clan/religion/ethnic
group/profession/society
6.
Idealism, the need for social justice
7.
Independence, the need for individuality
8.
Order, the need for organization – for organized, stable, predictable
environments
9.
Physical activity, the need for exercise
10.
Power, the need for influence of will
11.
Romance, the need for sex and for beauty
12.
Saving, the need to collect
13.
Social Contact, the need for friends (peer relationships)
14.
Social Status, the need for social standing (importance in society
or at the workplace)
15.
Tranquility, the need to be safe
16.
Vengeance, the need to strike back, to retaliate, to take revenge for perceived
injustice
PROCESS OF
MOTIVATED BEHAVIOUR
Of
course, as you will realize, this list
is not all encompassing and there are so many other needs that influence
your behaviour.
Some
of these “needs” are tangible, and some are intangible.
Why
do you behave in the way you do?
You
behave in a certain way to satisfy your needs.
The
process of human behavior can be summarized in four steps:
1.
A need is aroused within you
2.
You behave in a way to satisfy the need
3.
The need is satisfied
4.
You relax
Hence,
it is your needs that influence your behaviour.
The
way in which you behave to satisfy
your needs depends on your values,
attitude and mindset at that point of time.
Yes,
it is your values and mindset which will influence you to behave in a “certain
way” to satisfy your needs in a given situation.
Your
behaviour is value-driven and situation-specific.
For
example, the need for romance will be satisfied by different persons each in
their own unique way depending on their values and the situation.
From
the moment a need is aroused and till it is satisfied you will be in a state of
tension which will “motivate” your behaviour.
Yes,
during the period between “need arousal” and “need satisfaction” you will
experience a sense of tension, a condition of unrest or uneasiness, which will
propel you to behave in a certain way.
Once
the need is satisfied you will relax.
When
you cannot satisfy a need you will experience feelings of frustration.
The
degree of your frustration will be related to the magnitude of the unsatisfied
need.
Your
frustration will affect your behaviour and may cause you to behave in different
ways.
You
may find a new and acceptable way of reducing or substituting the (unsatisfied)
need in order to make it attainable (adaptive response)
Or,
you may continue futile efforts to achieve the unattainable need (maladaptive
response) – one of the typical maladaptive responses to frustration is aggression.
CONCLUSION
Reflect
on your own behaviour in the past few days (or recall some of your own memorable
behavioural fiascoes or those you have witnessed).
Explore
the dynamics between needs and behaviour.
Is
there a connection between your values and mindset and way you behaved in
certain situations?
Your “needs”
influence your behaviour – do you agree?
Please comment and let us know.
VIKRAM KARVE
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1 comment:
Self-introspection often helps us learn, and heal ourselves. Because all problems are internal, but the solution is always hunted for in the external world!
Nice extensive post!
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