Saturday, December 31, 2011


Everyone wishes you a HAPPY New Year. But do they tell you how to be Happy in the New Year?

So let me tell you How to be Happy in the New Year and wish you all, Dear Readers, a very Happy New Year. 

Read on - My Happiness Mantra for the New Year 2012 - and tell me if it works.


I have a pet dog. Her name is Sherry. She is always very lively, agile and sprightly – always full of beans – and she is always cheerful, jolly and happy. 

Sherry is my true friend, philosopher and guide – she has taught me the art of living one’s life to the fullest. 

As I said, Sherry is always happy. I think she has mastered the art of happiness. 
This is what I have learnt from Sherry on how to be happy.  
Here is her Happiness Mantra.
If you want to be happy do these four things: 
1. Try to be in the company of people who make you happy
2. Be in places which make you happy
3. Do things that make you happy
4. Live your life in such a way that your happiness in dependent on things within your own control to the maximum extent possible. 
Long back, sometime in the 1960’s, when I was a small boy, my father took me to visit Belur Math, and there I acquired a tiny pocket book called “Thus Spake Vivekananda”.

Whenever the chips were down, or I felt dejected, I referred to the inspiring gems of wisdom, distilled from the complete works of Swami Vivekanada, for instant motivation and strength.

Here’s one of those gems of wisdom, a phrase from the sayings of Swami Vivekananda -
Anything that makes you weak physically, intellectually, and spiritually, reject as poison
I feel that the word “weak” is all encompassing and embraces anything that creates in you a stressful situation like all negative emotions and feelings like anger, irritation, infuriation, frustration, despondency, depression, demoralization, unhappiness – anything that disturbs your inner tranquility and equanimity, drains you emotionally and intellectually, besides literal physical weakness.

Oh yes, unhappiness is weakness, unhappiness is Poison 
Now sit down in a quiet tranquil place, close your eyes, introspect, and try to think of all the things that make you feel negative – all your unhappiness-creators and unhappy situations.

These unhappiness creators can be anything, for example:

Toxic and incompatible persons, who irritate, annoy and hassle you, 
Foods and beverages (like Alcohol) which don’t suit you and are physically detrimental to your health and well-being, 
Activities, social and personal, which may appear pleasurable, but which actually drain you out, 
Technology and Gadgets, like your cell-phone, which disturb your peace of mind, and 
Strained Relationships, which are a source of unhappiness and cause stress in you,
Things that cause a guilty conscience in you,
Anything stressful and things which are a stimulus for negative emotions like anger, worry, fear, etc

Close your eyes, introspect and think...about all the persons and things that generate negative vibes, stress and unhappiness in you or make you feel “weak”. Then, follow Swami Vivekananda's advice: Anything that makes you weak physically, intellectually, and spiritually, reject as poison. 

Yes, do it in actual life...

Make an exhaustive list of all the things that make you “weak” and try to reject them as “poison”.  
At first you may be a bit sceptical about this approach, but when you start implementing, you’ll be surprised how much it is in your own control to prevent unhappiness.

While you reject the things that make you "weak" and unhappy, you must also reinforce the things that make you feel "strong" and happy.  

Yes, if unhappiness is "weakness", happiness is "strength".
So simultaneously, reflect and contemplate, and make a list of things which give you strength and joy, make you happy and productive – all the things and people that create positive feelings in you – and try to devote as much time and energy to doing these positive things that give you strength and make you feel good and happy.  
In a nutshell, try your best to generate happiness vibes by doing things which make you happy and try to reduce or even eliminate negative unhappiness vibes by "rejecting" things which you know will make you "weak" and unhappy. It is very easy - do try it.

This unhappiness prevention technique (Happiness Mantra) works for me, and I am sure it will work for you too. It is very effective, probably because it is so breathtaking in its simplicity. Do tell us how it worked for you.

Dear Reader: Make this your New Year Resolution - to have a really Happy New Year. May this Happiness Mantra give you all the Happiness in the New Year 2012. 

Copyright © Vikram Karve 2011
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A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer. Educated at IIT Delhi, ITBHU Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and he is currently working on his novel. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles in magazines and journals for many years before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for almost 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing. Vikram lives in Pune India with his family and muse - his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts. 

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Bruce Kodish said...

Excellent post, Vikram; I need all the reminding that I can get! We can not only have happiness; we can make what happiness we end up having. Inspired by you I vow to have/make a happy new year. I hope you have a happy one too.

Ruchi Sunandan said...

Nice and Motivating!! My Cookie has resemblance in nature with your Sherry.

Anonymous said...

Dear Friend,

Its really good article which explains many true facts. hats off to u. I learn a lot from your blog.

Thank U,

Sheik Mujibur Rahman,

Salalah, Oman.

Rahul Bhatia said...

Best wishes for 2012..

Kaalel said...

A very nice post. Happiness eludes most people in their everyday lives somewhere between making two ends meet and their daily routine people indeed do forget what life is really about. THis should help reminding them.
Wish you a Happy and prosperous new year 2012

Vikram Waman Karve said...

@ Bruce - I am so glad you have decided to make 2012 a "Happy Year" - How is it going so far?

Vikram Waman Karve said...

@ Rahul - Thanks. Best Wishes to you and your family for a Happy 2012
@ Kaleel - I am sure you will have a Happy Year 2012
@ Anonymous - Thanks for your nice words

Vikram Waman Karve said...

@ Ruchi - Wish you and Cookie all the Happiness fro Sherry and Me