Showing posts with label maternity leave. Show all posts
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Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Forgotten Baby Syndrome (FBS)

FORGOTTEN BABY SYNDROME (FBS)

BABY AND CHILD CARE
A Story
By
VIKRAM KARVE

This happened 32 years ago – in mid-1985.

I was newly posted as an Instructor (“Directing Staff” – in “Pongo” jargon) at IAT Girinagar Pune – which – in those days – was the premier inter-service advanced technology training institution.

On my very first evening – I set off on a long walk in the beautiful verdant campus nestled in the hills.

On the way – I noticed a pram (perambulator) – with a baby inside.

The baby was around one year old.

The baby was sitting inside the pram.

The pram was unattended.

It was the height of summer – and – the hot sun was shining brightly – directly on the baby.  

Yes – the baby’s face was exposed to the bright sun.

The baby’s face had become red – and – the baby’s eyes were cringed with irritation.

The baby was crying due to discomfort.

I moved the pram into the shade – and  I looked around.

I saw a group of maids chatting nearby.

I called out to them.

A woman came running. 

It was obvious the she was the “ayah” responsible for looking after the baby.

I admonished the maid for leaving the baby unattended in the hot sun.

Well – “admonish” may be a mild word – I shouted at the maid – and  I gave her a severe scolding for neglecting her duties and leaving the baby all alone in the hot sun.

I told the maid to take the baby home – and I waited – till the maid walked away with the pram.

Thereafter – I proceeded on a long evening walk.

On the way back – I stopped off the Officers’ Mess Library to browse magazines. 

Then – I had a couple of drinks in the Bar.

I returned home in “high spirits” at around 8 PM.

The door was open.

I walked in.

I saw a beautiful woman sitting inside holding a baby in her arms.

I recognized the baby – it was the same baby who was left in the hot sun by her maid.

So – this was the mother of the baby who I had rescued from the hot sun.

I thought the lady had come to thank me for my good deed.

But – that lady had not come to thank me. 

Yes – the mother of the baby had not come to thank me.

The mother of the baby was annoyed with me – and – she had come to caution me.

“Why did you shout at my maid…?” the lady asked me angrily.

“Your “ayah” had left the baby all alone in the hot sun…” I said.

“There was no need to shout at my maid…”

“But – your baby was crying – your baby was feeling uncomfortable in the hot sun – and your maid was chatting away…”

“That’s none of your business – it is my baby and I will see what to do. Do you know – all because of you – my maid so upset – that  she is threatening to leave me…”

“You should sack her for being negligent in her duties and not looking after your baby properly…”

“Oh. You want me to sack my maid…? And – what should I do…? Should I quit my job and sit at home all day to look after my child…?”

I was about to say: “Yes – you should quit your job and look after your baby yourself instead of outsourcing baby-care to a maid...

But – before I could say anything – luckily – my wife came out of the kitchen carrying a tray with two cups of coffee.

With her eyes – my wife motioned me to remain silent.

The lady kept her baby on the sofa beside her. 

Then – the lady said to my wife: 

“Please tell your husband not to shout at my maid again. I have a full-time job – I leave my house at 9 in the morning and I come back after 6 in the evening – I am totally dependent on my maid for looking after my baby – so – if my maid quits – I will be in a big problem – I am sure you know how difficult it is to get a full-time maid…”

Once again – I was tempted to tell the lady: “Why don’t you quit your job and look after your baby yourself...? Why are you handing over your baby to a maid...?”

But – I saw my wife desperately signalling to me to keep my mouth shut. 

It was clear that my wife had guessed what I wanted to say – so – she was signalling to me to keep my mouth shut.

My wife said to the lady: 

“I am sorry for the trouble – in future – my husband will mind his own business…”  

I went inside.

When I came out – the lady with the baby had left.

“She is a funny woman – her maid was neglecting the baby and had kept the pram in the hot sun – I did a good deed by scolding the maid – and – instead of thanking me – the baby’s mother is annoyed with me…” I said to my wife.

“Try to understand – she is a “career woman” – she has to work full-time all-day at the office – so – she needs someone to look after her baby…” my wife said.

“Why do women have babies if they don’t want to look after them…?” 

VIKRAM KARVE
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1. This story is a fictional spoof, satire, just for fun and humor, no offence is meant to anyone, so take it with a pinch of salt and have a laugh.
2. This story is a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the story are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

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Revised Version on my story BABY AND CHILD CARE posted online earlier in my Academic and Creative Writing Journal Blog on January 9, 2017 at url: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2017/01/baby-and-child-care.html

Friday, March 24, 2017

Baby and Child Care – “state-of-the art”

MODERN PARENTING and CHILDCARE
The Story of Mr. and Mrs. X and their Baby  
Short Fiction – The Story of a Modern Urban Couple
By
VIKRAM KARVE 

Mr. and Mrs. X and their BABY – Fiction Short Story by VIKRAM KARVE

Mr. and Mrs. X desperately wanted to have a baby.  

So – Mr. and Mrs. X tried very hard to have a baby.  

Poor Mr. and Mrs. X  they tried and tried  they put in a lot of effort  but they could not have a baby.

As time flew  and the biological clock ticked away  Mr. and Mrs. X became more and more anxious.

So with resolute perseverance  Mr. and Mrs. X put everything at stake to have a baby.

Mr. and Mrs. X made determined efforts to have a baby – they consulted the best doctors and fertility specialists in town – they spent huge amounts of money on the best and most sophisticated infertility treatments possible – they tried all sorts of things  exoteric and esoteric – they left no stone unturned – they struggled and struggled  with dogged persistence  till  at long last  at the age of 36  Mrs. X conceived – and she got pregnant.

Then  after a difficult, delicate, gruelling, backbreaking, anxious, harrowing pregnancy  Mrs. X overcame all sorts of complications  and finally  after enduring for nine long months  Mrs. X successfully delivered a beautiful bonny baby.

Everyone was delighted.

The parents  Mr. and Mrs. X  were proud that they had proved their mettle.

The doctors boasted about the success of their treatment.

The grandparents were relieved that the family lineage was preserved.

The soothsayers, the relatives, the friends – everyone was happy that the much delayed and much awaited baby was born after so many trials and tribulations. 

3 months after the baby was born  I happened to be in town.

I decided to visit Mr. and Mrs. X and their Baby.  

On the way  at the jewellers  I bought a gold ornament as a present for the baby.  

I found my way to their classy house in an elite residential society located in the most posh and exclusive neighbourhood of the city.  

When I reached the deluxe apartment  I felt a tinge of envy  thinking about Mr. and Mrs. X  the young IT Techie whiz kids  who could afford such an expensive apartment  and an ostentatious living style  so early in life. 

The proud grandparents opened the door.  

The bonny baby  on her grandmother’s lap  looked very cute.

Yes  the baby was very cute and cuddly.  

The baby’s parents  Mr. and Mrs. X  the young mother and father  were conspicuous by their absence.  

It was late evening  and I had expected Mr. and Mrs. X to be at home  doting upon their adorable little baby.

In fact  the baby was so small  that I thought that Mrs. X would be still breastfeeding her baby.

I was curious why Mrs. X was not at home  so I asked the grandparents: “Where is the young mother...?”

“At work...” the grandfather answered.

“Oh. The young mother is already back at work...? The baby is only 3 months old and the mother has already started going to her office so fast...? Okay 
– no problem – it doesn’t matter  I want to meet her  I am in no hurry – so I will wait for her  she should be back home soon  isn’t it…?” I asked, looking at the wall clock.

“No! No! She won’t be coming for at least 6 months now...
” the grandfather said.

“6 months...? Mrs. X won’t be coming for 6 months...?” I asked, confused.

She has gone abroad  to America  on an important project...” said the proud grandmother, cuddling and mothering the baby.

“And what about Mr. X 
 the proud father of the baby – he should be coming back from work anytime now – isn’t it…?” I asked.

“He is in Singapore. He got a fantastic job offer on the same day the baby was born...” said the grandfather. 

“What...?” I said.

“You know  the Baby has proved real lucky for her parents. The Baby’s mother got promoted as project leader with a hefty raise and was sent abroad to America for this prestigious overseas assignment  and  the Baby’s father got this fabulous job offer in Singapore...” said the proud grandmother, cuddling the baby.

The Baby suddenly started to cry.

“It is the baby’s feed-time...” the grandmother said.

The grandmother handed over the baby to the grandfather  and she went into the kitchen to warm up the baby’s milk.

“It’s good. I feel happy for my son and daughter-in-law...” the grandfather said 
 lovingly fondling the bonny baby, for all these years when they were trying so hard to have this baby  they had put their careers on the back-burner. Now that they have got their baby  they can focus on their careers once again...”

The grandmother came out with the milk bottle 
 and she began feeding the bonny baby  while the doting grandfather lovingly looked on.

I looked at the grandparents – the surrogate parents – the glorified “nannies

Then  I looked at the Baby.

Mr. and Mrs. X had indeed “produced” the Baby.

But  it was the delighted grandparents who would enjoy the joys of parenting the baby.

In fact – now – for the old couple – it was the Baby who was their light of life  their raison d’etre  their very reason for living  and certainly the source of all their present happiness. 

And  the parents of the Baby – Mr. and Mrs. X – both are busy in the pursuit of their careers  the mother in America  and  the father in Singapore.

Mr. and Mrs. X do not know what they are missing by “outsourcing” their parenting and child-care duties.

Also  I do not understand one thing. 

The “Moot Question”:

If Mr. and Mrs. X did not want to look after their own Baby – why did they make so much effort to produce the Baby...?

VIKRAM KARVE
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This story is a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the story are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

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No part of this Blog may be reproduced or utilized in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical including photocopying or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Blog Author Vikram Karve who holds the copyright.
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