Sunday, April 7, 2019

How to find the Perfect Wife/Husband



How to find the Perfect Spouse

Food for Thought



Here is one my favourite Mulla Nasrudin Stories.

I am sure you will enjoy reading it (even if you've heard it before).

After you read the story, please close your eyes and introspect. Though this story is about marriage (finding the perfect wife), it applies to everyone who is obsessed with "perfection" in any aspect of life.

Do apply the story to yourself, to others, to situations you have observed where people strive for "perfection" and marvel at the wisdom in this story. 

And if you are young and searching for a "perfect" soulmate or spouse, do remember this story, lest you remain single all your life.


Are you searching for The Perfect Wife 
(or The Perfect Husband, The Perfect Soulmate, The Perfect Match, The Perfect Marriage)

A Mulla Nasrudin Story 


There is a beautiful and bright young girl who lives in my neighbourhood.

She wants to get married but it seems that she just can’t seem to find anyone suitable matching her "stringent" requirements. 

She is surrounded by so many “eligible” boys - colleagues at work - boys in her friends circle - if she prefers a "love" marriage.

Also - she has “seen” and “rejected” a large number of boys her parents and well-wishers keep lining up for her, in case she wants to go in for an "arranged" marriage. 

None of the boys seems to come up to her perfect standards and high expectations.

But one thing is sure - she does want to get married.

I wonder whether I should tell her this apocryphal Mulla Nasrudin Teaching story titled


Mulla Nasrudin was sitting in a tea shop when a friend came excitedly to speak with him.

“I am about to get married,” his friend said, “and I am so very excited.”

“Congratulations,” Mulla Nasrudin said, nonchalant,  pokerfaced.

“Tell me, Nasrudin - have you ever thought of marriage yourself...?” the about to get married friend asked Mulla Nasrudin who had remained a chronic bachelor.

Nasrudin replied:

“Of course I did think of getting married. In my youth, in fact, I very much wanted to get married.”

“So, what happened...?” the friend asked curious.

“I wanted to find for myself the perfect wife...” Nasrudin said, “so - I travelled looking for the perfect wife. I first went to Damascus. There I met a beautiful woman who was gracious, kind, and deeply spiritual - but - she had no worldly knowledge."

"Oh, how sad...!" said the friend, " then what did you do...?

"Then I travelled further and went to Isphahan. There I met a woman who was both spiritual and worldly, beautiful in many ways - but - her social graces were not of the highest standards.”

“What a tragedy...! Then what did you do...? Did you give up...?” the friend asked.

“No...No...I don't give up so easily - and I very much wanted  to get married. So - I kept on searching for the perfect wife - and - I travelled all over the world - meeting so many women..." Nasrudin said.

“And - did you find her...? Tell me - did you finally find the perfect wife...?” the friend asked eagerly.

“Yes...” Nasrudin said, “after travelling all over finally I went to Cairo - and there - after much searching - I found her. She was spiritually deep, graceful, and beautiful in every respect, at home in the world and at home in the realms beyond it. I knew I had found the perfect wife.”

“Then why did you not marry her...?” the friend asked excitedly.

“Alas...!” said Nasrudin as he shook his head in dismay, “unfortunately - she was searching for the perfect husband.”

Do apply the story to yourself, to your near and dear ones, to colleagues and others, to situations where you have observed people striving for "perfection" - and marvel at the wisdom in this story. 

And - if you are young and searching for a "perfect" soulmate or spouse - do remember this story - otherwise - you will keep searching until it is too late - and maybe - you will remain single all your life.

Copyright © Vikram Karve
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This article has been posted by me Vikram Karve a number of times in my various blogs.

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