Monday, January 27, 2014

HOW TO DEVELOP A THICK SKIN

A youngster was on his way to join the academy as a navy cadet.

He asked me for some tips and advice.

You must develop a thick skin, I said.

How does one develop a thick skin, he asked.

So, I told him this apocryphal Zen Story called The Gift of Insults:

THE GIFT OF INSULTS
An Apocryphal Story
By
VIKRAM KARVE

Now-a-days many persons, especially young people, are very touchy and hypersensitive to what others say. 

Any trivial comment is taken as an insult.

If you are planning to join the military, any of the armed forces, army, navy or air force, here is one of my favorite teaching stories to mull over.


THE GIFT OF INSULTS

There was once a great warrior. 

His reputation extended far and wide throughout the land and many students gathered to study under him. 

Though quite old, the warrior was still adept at martial arts.

Despite his age, the legend was that the old warrior could defeat any adversary.

One afternoon, a young warrior, known for his complete lack of scruples, arrived in the village.

The young warrior had never lost a fight.

Along with his strength, the young warrior had an uncanny ability to spot and exploit any weakness in an opponent. 

He would wait for his opponent to make the first move, thus revealing a weakness.

And then would strike with merciless force and lightning speed. 

No one had ever lasted with him in a match beyond the first move.  

The young warrior had heard of the old master’s reputation was determined to be the first man to defeat the till then invincible great master.

The brash young warrior challenged the old master to a fight. 

Much against the advice of his concerned students, the old master gladly accepted the young warrior's challenge.

All villagers eagerly gathered in the village square to witness the bout.

As the two squared off for battle, the young warrior began to hurl insults at the old master. 

The young warrior threw dirt and mud at the old warrior.

Then the young warrior spat on the master’s face.

The young warrior tried his utmost to goad and incite the master to make the first move.

But the old warrior merely stood there motionless and calm.

For hours the young warrior provoked the master. 

He verbally abused the master with every curse and insult known to mankind.

The young warrior even insulted the master’s ancestors, but the old man kept smiling and remained impassive.

The young warrior kept abusing and insulting the old warrior for many hours.

But the old warrior did not react and he just kept smiling.

Finally, as the sun started setting, the young warrior started feeling exhausted and humiliated. 

Gradually comprehension dawned on the young warrior and he knew that he was defeated so he bowed before the master and feeling shamed he left the village.

Disappointed that the master had received so many insults and provocations, the students gathered around the old master and questioned him:

“How could you bear such indignity? one student asked the old warrior.

Why didn't you use your sword and fight the insolent youth?” asked another.

It would have been better if you lost the fight instead of displaying such cowardice in front of us all?” a third asked.

The old warrior looked at his angry students and said: “If someone comes to you with a gift, and you do not accept it, to whom does the gift belong?” 

“If you do not accept a gift, the gift belongs to the giver, the one who tried to give you the gift,” replied one of his students.

“The same goes for envy, anger and insults,” said the master, “If you do not accept these gifts of abuse, invective and insults, they continue to belong to the one who delivers them...!!!”


So the next time someone tries to insult you, remember this story, and do not accept the gift of insults.

VIKRAM KARVE
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