The Cracked Pot – Story for Ambitious Parents

THE CRACKED POT
STORY FOR AMBITIOUS 
Musings on Parenting

By

VIKRAM KARVE

THE STORY OF THE CRACKED POT

A water bearer had two large pots – one hung on each end of a pole – which he carried across his neck. 

One of the pots had a crack in it – so – some water leaked out of it.

The other pot was perfect and had no leaks – so – this “perfect pot” always delivered a full portion of water. 

At the end of the long walk by the water bearer carrying water from the river to the master’s house – the cracked pot always arrived only half full. 

For two years this went on daily – with the water bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his master’s house. 

Of course – the “perfect pot” was proud of its accomplishments – fulfilled in the design for which it was made.

But – the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection.

The cracked pot felt miserable that it was unable to accomplish what it had been made to do.

The “cracked pot” felt it was a “Loser” – while the “perfect pot” was a “Winner”

After two years of enduring this bitter shame – the contrite Cracked Pot spoke to the Water Bearer one day when he was filling up water from the river.

The Cracked Pot said to the Water Bearer: 

“I am ashamed of myself and I apologize to you.”

The Water Bearer asked the sad Cracked Pot: 

“Why are you feeling so guilty, so penitent, so repentant …? Tell me – Dear Pot – what is it that you are so ashamed of…?”

The Cracked Pot said full of remorse: 

“I feel sorry that for these past two years I have been able to deliver only half my load – because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master’s house. Because of my flaws – you have to do extra work and you do not get full value from your efforts.”

The Water Bearer felt sorry for the old Cracked Pot. 

In his compassion – the Water Bearer said to the Cracked Pot: 

“As we return to the master’s house – I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path.”

Indeed – as they went up the hill – the old Cracked Pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful flowers on the side of the path – and was consoled somewhat.

But at the end of the trail – the Cracked Pot still felt remorse – shame and a feeling of guilt – because it had leaked out half its water load.

And so again – the Cracked Pot apologized to the Water Bearer for its failure: 

“I have again leaked out half the water. I am sorry...” 

On hearing this – the Water Bearer said to the Cracked Pot:

“Did you not notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path – and not on the other pot’s side…?

That is because I have always known about your flaw – and – I took advantage of it. 

I planted flower seeds on your side of the path – and – every day while we walked back from the stream – you have watered them. 

For two years – I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my master’s table. 

Without you being just the way you are – would we have these beautiful flowers on the path – and would I be able to give these lovely flowers to the master – to grace his house.

The “perfect pot” only carries water – but you do two things – you carry water – and – you also help beautify your surroundings too...” 

MORAL OF THE STORY

There are no winners and there are no losers – everyone is a winner in his or her own way.

Yes – you are a winner in your own way 

Each of us has our own unique flaws. 

We all are “cracked pots”. 

But – it is the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding and make you unique. 

You must consider each person for what he naturally is – and look for the good qualities in him.

Every person is useful to society in his own way – just like the cracked pot was useful in its own way.

Most importantly – you must look for the winner within your own self – maybe hiding deep inside you. 

If you introspect – you will realize that you are a winner in your own way.

So – please do not compare yourself with others – and – do not pay too much heed to what other people say. 

The STORY OF THE CRACKED POT is for parents, teachers, mentors – especially for those parents/teachers – who want to achieve their own unfulfilled dreams – vicariously – through their children and protegees. 

Due to this – some ambitious parents force their own unrealized desires and unrealistic ambitions on their children. 

Such people put a lot of pressure on children – they drive the poor kids – and – they overwhelm them with high expectations.

Everyone wants their children to be the best – all parents want their children to stand first in class and excel in all activities. 

Everyone wants to “WIN”

In the “Rat Race” to Success – there is no place for “LOSERS” 

There is no place for even those who come second.

In the competitive world of today – we all adopt the philosophy of life: 

“Winner takes all – and – Loser is left standing small...”

This story is also for those perfectionists – at the workplace and at home – who expect everyone to be perfect like themselves – and this quest for perfection – they make everyone’s life hell…

Most importantly – this story is for you and me – for all of us – who want to be winners in our own way – despite our “imperfections”. 

Yes – like the Water Bearer took advantage of the Cracked Pot’s flaw – shouldn’t we use our so-called “imperfections” to our advantage...? 

VIKRAM KARVE

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This Story was posted online by me a number of times in my blogs including at url: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2010/03/cracked-pot-teaching-story.html andhttp://karvediat.blogspot.in/2011/02/are-you-cracked-pot.html  and  http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2015/07/are-you-loser-inspirational-story-to.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2010/03/cracked-pot-teaching-story.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2012/07/do-you-think-you-are-loser-remember.html and https://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/11/childrens-day-story.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.com/2017/11/a-story-for-parents-to-inspire-their.html etc

Inquiry Based Learning

ROTE LEARNING KILLS CREATIVE THINKING 

The Need for INQUIRY BASED LEARNING SYSTEM which is more STUDENT-CENTRIC in design

Musings

By

VIKRAM KARVE

Here is quote from Liddel Hart (quoted by Norman Dixon on page 162 of his book “On The Psychology of Military Incompetence”):

A lifetime of having to curb the expression of original thought culminates so often in there being nothing left to express

Think about it.

Isn’t the present day rote learning type education system doing exactly this...?

And – so is the “do as you are told” management philosophy – prevalent in most organisations. 

There is a saying:

If You Don’t “Use” It – Then You Will “Lose” It

It is the same with your brain – especially the right side of your brain. 

If you keep restraining your creativity from realizing its full potential – if you curb your imagination and suppress your original thinking – a time will come when you will lose the ability to think imaginatively and ingeniously.

After some time – you will become like a mechanical “robot” – and you will unthinkingly and unquestioningly do what you are told.

That is what the prevalent teacher-centric rote learning education system and “do as you are told” work culture is achieving.

Do we want our children to become “robots”...?

Or – should we not introduce a more student centric Inquiry Based Learning System...?

Remember the saying:

Tell me and I Forget 

Show me and I Remember 

Involve me and I Understand

Involvement is the sine qua non of holistic learning.

Mere “Telling” and “Showing” is not enough – as this will not encourage development of creativity and stimulate imagination. 

It is “involvement” that will kindle and inspire original thinking which in turn will facilitate realization of one’s full potential. 

VIKRAM KARVE

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Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work. 
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This was written during my teaching days as a Professor at IAT Pune – and have I posted it online in my blogs a number of times including at url: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2012/06/inquiry-based-learning-system-student.html

What Makes a Good Teacher

WHAT MAKES A GOOD TEACHER  

Though I wrote this article in the context of Higher Education – I feel is it universally applicable to all Teachers.

The Two Myths of Higher Education

By

VIKRAM KARVE

From my personal experience as a teacher at the post graduate level in Engineering, Technology and Management – I feel that the two myths of higher education are:

1. The Higher the Qualifications – the Better the Teacher 

2. Money motivates Teachers.

Let us reflect on what makes a good teacher – especially in higher professional education.

MYTH NO. 1 – The Higher the Qualifications, the Better the Teacher 

Does a Ph. D. make a Better Teacher...?

Musings on the Qualities a Teacher must Possess

A teacher is a trustee.

It is just like the birds. 

You take a flock of young students under your wings – nurture them – teach them to “fly” – and when they are ready – you release them into the world – set them free – watch them with pride as they fly into the sky, soar high above you – knowing that they will never come back – wishing that they reach great heights which you could never reach – for nothing gives a teacher more happiness than when his student excels and surpasses the teacher himself. 

I have learned from experience that teaching has got less to do with knowledge and more to do with communication.

Teaching is about relationships as well as pedagogy.

Teaching is more about feeling than facts. 

It is all a question of vibes.

Once you establish positive vibes with your students – you can feel the delightful chemistry being generated between you and your students. 

In the parlance of Electrical Engineering – it is like perfect impedance matching – the maximum power transfer theorem – and you can experience the classroom rocking with resonance – when all the resistance to the flow of knowledge disappears – the intellectual friction vanishes – the barriers to communication melt away – and seamless effortless learning is achieved.

It is not important how much a teacher knows – What is important is how much the student learns.

For a teacher – communication skills are far more important than qualifications.

Teaching is about relationships as well as pedagogy – Teaching is more about feeling than facts.

Soft Skills outweigh Hard Skills as far as the art of teaching is concerned.

A highly qualified Ph.D. who does not know the art of teaching and fails to establish good vibes with his students cannot make his lectures engrossing – and this often may result in students losing interest in the subject – and in some cases – an insensitive teacher who lacks the requisite soft skills – and has poor interpersonal and ineffective communication skills – such a teacher may even end up making his students hate and despise the subject he or she is teaching. 

I have seen that many Ph.D. qualified teachers do not possess the requisite soft skills required for effective teaching.

In many cases – overqualification may be counterproductive – and the demonstrated ability at carrying out research (Ph.D) may not guarantee good teaching skills – especially at the undergraduate level. 

Unlike in schools where B.Ed. is a must for teachers – and a DECE or Montessori Training is desirable for primary and pre-primary school teachers – the fact of the matter is that in higher education most teachers have had no formal training in the Art of Teaching or Pedagogy – and they are appointed as lecturers and professors solely based on their academic qualifications and research publications – irrespective of whether they are proficient in Pedagogy and the Art of Teaching. 

That is why one sees so many well qualified professors with poor communication skills and inadequate teaching ability owing to which they are unable to motivate their students – and this hampers their ability to transfer their knowledge to the students. 

Insistence on a Ph.D. for a teacher – even at the undergraduate level – this precludes many otherwise talented persons including those with professional experience from entering as faculty in the teaching profession in higher and professional education – and this is a great loss of expertise – and results in only the “academicians” dominating the teaching profession. 

Of course, the ultimate losers are the students – and as a consequence, the nation and the society at large. 

In fact – this is one of the reasons that many organisations and employers have to invest heavily in induction training – as fresh graduates are not industry-ready – especially in engineering and technology.

It is easy to make simple things difficult – but difficult to make complicated things easy. 

It requires good teaching style, effective communication skills and appropriate soft skills to make difficult things easy and enjoyable to learn. 

The process of learning must be enjoyable. 

It must not be dry, didactic, boring and painful.

It is important for a teacher to remember that learning comprises two pedagogic processes: 

Getting knowledge that is inside to move out 

and

Getting knowledge that is outside to move in 

The second part of imparting knowledge from outside into the student is comparatively easier – once you’ve got the students interested, eager to learn, and the teacher is proficient in teaching skills and knowledgeable in the subject and domain specialization.

It is the first aspect – getting knowledge that is inside the student to move out – facilitating inward discovery on one’s self – motivate inquiry based learning – to help unlock the treasure within the student – that is more challenging – and this is the true test and indeed the hallmark of a good teacher.

MYTH NO. 2 – Money Motivates Teachers

ARE THOSE MOTIVATED BY MONEY THE BEST TEACHERS?

Three Kinds of Teachers and 3 R’s of Teaching – Reward Recognition Respect

There are three kinds of Teachers:

1. Reward Oriented 

2. Recognition Seeking 

3. Respect Winning

Let us reflect a bit on each of the above types of teachers.

REWARD ORIENTED TEACHERS

In the first category are those who teach for Reward. 

For them – teaching is like any other job – a profession rather than a passion – a means of earning their livelihood. 

They believe that if they teach ‘X’ number of hours – they are entitled ‘Y’ salary. 

For any extra teaching load – they expect what the industry bluntly calls overtime – and for which academics use euphemisms like honorarium etc.

RECOGNITION SEEKING TEACHERS

Then there are teachers who are obsessed with Recognition. 

They strive for awards, titles, designations, positions, peer recognition, publishing papers, honours, fellowships – being recognised is all about fame. 

Recognition is not so much about getting credit as it is about being appreciated.

RESPECT WINNING TEACHERS

The highest category of teachers are those who win Respect – respect of their students, respect of their colleagues in the teaching fraternity and respect of society. 

For them respect is one of the most critical dimensions of their life. 

Respect Winning Teachers are passionate about teaching and they are loved by their students on whom they make a lasting impression.

In Which Category is Your Teacher...?

So – Dear Reader – the next time you see a teacher – observe carefully – and try to analyse in which category he or she belongs – reward, recognition or respect.

A Teacher who strives to win respect will always be more student-centric, stakeholder conscious and effective – than Teachers who are greedy for rewards or yearning for recognition.

Are You a Teacher...?

If you are a teacher yourself – please close your eyes and introspect – and see for yourself where you belong – and truthfully assess whether your metier is in teaching.  

It is quite simple.

After you finish a lecture ask yourself six questions:

1. Is the lecture something you feel you have done well...?

2. Do you feel you teach well...?

3. Did you enjoy delivering the lecture...?

4. Do you enjoy teaching...?

5. Did you feel proud of the way you delivered the lecture...?

6. Do you feel proud of the fact that you are a teacher or would you rather be someone else...?

If the answers to all the six questions is YES – you know you are in the right place. 

So – Happy Teaching. 

Whether you are a Teacher – or a Student – or a Parent – don't forget the Three R’s of Teaching (Reward Recognition Respect)

EPILOGUE

So we have debunked the two myths of teaching – haven’t we?

Am I a good teacher? 

Have I won the respect of my students? 

Well, looking back at my teaching years, I trust I have succeeded in achieving this, and yes, I have been a good teacher.

Every time a course or training program ends, I feel a sense of pride tinged with nostalgic sadness as my protégés “fly” off to conquer great heights of success in their careers. 

It is indeed a delightful and unmatched experience to mentor young bright minds, to see them flower, blossom, bloom and flourish before your own eyes, observe them metamorphose from students into professionals.

I love being in the company of young talented people, full of zeal and enthusiasm, with a zest for living and a passion for learning. 

It makes me feel good and youthful, and as always – I “learn” more than I “teach”.

I feel sad, wanting to hold them back, not wanting to part – but I know I have to let them go to their destinies.

My dear students – as I watch you with pride in my heart, swiftly fly away, soaring high above me in the sky, vanish into the distance – to all my dear students – I will always bless you and sincerely wish you from the bottom of my heart: GODSPEED.

Godspeed – a wish for a prosperous journey and good fortune, my dear young friends, as you embark upon your first career, a new phase of your life.

Let me end with one of my favourite sayings – a quote from Indira Gandhi:

My grandfather once told me that there were two kinds of people:

1. Those who do the work 

and 

2. Those who take the credit

He told me to try to be in the first group – as there was much less competition over there. 

VIKRAM KARVE

Copyright © Vikram Karve 
Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work. 
© vikram karve., all rights reserved. 

This was written during my teaching days as a Professor at IAT Pune – and have I posted it online in my blogs a number of times including at urls: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2011/11/what-makes-good-teacher-myth-and.html  and http://vikramkarve.typepad.com/blog/2011/05/what-makes-a-good-teacher-the-two-myths.html etc