DO YOU HESITATE TO “WASH” YOUR “DIRTY LINEN” IN PUBLIC DUE TO THE “KEEP IT IN THE FAMILY” SYNDROME...?
“Dirt” has to be “washed” – otherwise – things become “unclean”.
Now – this “dirt” may be physical – or – metaphorical – like mental “dirt” - perversions, immorality or filth in the mind – or – systemic “dirt” – corruption, crime and unethical aspects/people in a system/organisation.
If you metaphorically call a system/organisation as “linen” – then an “unclean” system/organisation “polluted” by various forms of “dirt” can be metaphorically called “dirty linen”.
“Dirty Linen” has to be “Washed”.
If you can “Wash” your “Dirty Linen” in private – well and good.
Otherwise – you will have to “Wash” your “Dirty Linen” in public.
If you avoid “washing” your “dirty linen” – it will become unclean and filthy – and can be harmful to your “health”.
So – it is imperative to “wash” your “dirty linen”.
As I said – it is best to “wash” your “dirty linen” in private.
But – if for some reason you can’t do so – then – you have to “wash” your “dirty linen” in public.
Unless you believe in “uncleanliness” – you have to “wash” your “dirty linen”.
So – it is better to “wash” your “dirty linen” in public – rather than not “wash” your “dirty linen” at all.
Due to sense of “Misplaced Loyalty” – some people avoid “washing” their “dirty linen” because they don’t want to “wash” their “dirty linen” in public.
This pseudo-ethical sense sense of “Misplaced Loyalty” due to a “Don’t Wash Your Dirty Linen in Public” mindset results in the “Keep it in the Family” Syndrome.
At the familial level – families tend to hide serious issues under the pretext that it is an internal issue of the family and that “dirty linen” should not be washed in public – otherwise the image and reputation of the family will be adversely affected.
Incidents of Incest, Sexual Abuse, Inappropriate Behaviour, Adultery, Pedophilia and Domestic Violence that happen within a “family” – these incidents may be “hushed up” to avoid “washing dirty linen in public” – because of the fallacious fear that exposing the wrongdoers may bring a “bad name” to the family and tarnish the reputation of the family.
At the organisational level – “Misplaced Loyalty” due to the “Keep it in the Family” syndrome sometimes makes you condone unethical acts of individuals/organizations who you feel are a “part of the family” and towards whom you feel a sense of “loyalty”.
“Misplaced Loyalty” attitudes of – “Keep it in the Family” – “Don’t Wash Dirty Linen in Public” – results in a “pseudo-ethical” tendency to “brush misdemeanors under the carpet” and “hush up” wrongdoings – due to which culprits get away scot-free.
Owing to these “Misplaced Loyalty” Mindsets in Organizations – Frauds and Scams are “hushed-up” – Corruption and Wrongdoings are not exposed – and – Scandals are swept under the carpet.
Dear Reader – here is an article I had written 3 years ago on the topic of “Misplaced Loyalty” due to “Keep it in the Family” Syndrome...
MISPLACED LOYALTY
A Garb for Pseudo-Ethics
Musings of a Navy Veteran
By
VIKRAM KARVE
RUSTOM
The film is based on the famous 1959 Nanavati Case
(Commander K. M. Nanavati vs. State of Maharashtra)
I am sure you are aware of this landmark murder case in which Commander Kawas Manekshaw Nanavati – a Navy Commander – was tried for the murder of Prem Ahuja – his wife’s lover.
NANAVATI CASE
As per information on the Nanavati Case on the Internet – it appears that – Commander Nanavati fired 3 shots at his wife’s lover who dropped dead – and then – Commander Nanavati headed straight to confess to the Provost Marshal of the Western Naval Command – and – on his advice – Nanavati surrendered himself to the Deputy Commissioner of Police.
The murder case received unprecedented media coverage and inspired several books and movies.
Commander Nanavati – accused under section 302 – was initially declared “Not Guilty” by a Jury under section 302 – but – the verdict was dismissed by the Bombay High Court – and – the case was re-tried as a bench trial.
The High Court sentenced Nanavati to life imprisonment for culpable homicide amounting to murder – and subsequently – the Supreme Court of India upheld the conviction.
Nanavati was granted pardon after spending 3 years in prison – and – after his release – Nanavati – his wife Sylvia – and – their 3 children – all migrated to Canada – and – settled in Toronto.
Nanavati died in 2003.
The Nanavati case was the last to be heard as a Jury Trial in India – as the government abolished jury trials after this landmark case.
RUSTOM (Movie) – Twist in the Tail
The movie ending is different – with a “Twist in the Tail”.
The protagonist Commander Rustom Pavri walks free after the jury declares him “not guilty”.
On the eve of the judgement – while talking to the Investigating Officer (Police Inspector Lobo) – Commander Rustom Pavri justifies killing his wife’s lover (Vikram Makhija)
Rustom says that the real reason he shot dead his wife’s lover (Vikram Makhija) was to prevent India Navy from acquiring a “sub-standard” Aircraft Carrier which would have compromised national security.
Vikram Makhija was an “Arms Agent” – and – he had entered into a conspiracy with “Bigwigs” (including high ranking Naval Officers and Bureaucrats) – to siphon off money by importing a “sub-standard” warship.
Rustom is deputed abroad to a foreign country to inspect the ship – and – he discovers the “scam”.
He is shocked to learn that his friend Vikram Makhija is the main conspirator and his own senior officers are involved neck-deep in the scam.
The corrupt “scamsters” try to “persuade” Rustom to give a “favourable” report to accept the “sub-standard” ship.
The corrupt “scamsters” try to bribe Rustom – and – later they threaten him – but – Rustom – who is a patriotic and honest officer – refuses to compromise his integrity.
On his return to India – Rustom he telephonically informs the Defence Secretary about the scam – and – Rustom tells him that he will not spare the main conspirator Vikram Makhija (who – as Rustom has coincidentally learnt – is having an affair with Rustom’s wife Sylvia).
(It later transpires that the Defence Secretary is also involved in the scam).
Rustom proceeds to Vikram Makhija’s house and puts three bullets into his chest.
Vikram Makhija drops dead.
Everyone – including the investigating officer Inspector Lobo – everyone thinks that Rustom killed Makhija because he caught him having an affair with his wife.
However – at the end of the movie – while talking to Inspector Lobo – Rustom reveals that real reason why he killed Vikram Makhija.
Rustom says the he killed Vikram Makhija since he was the key conspirator in the shady deal to import the sub-standard aircraft carrier warship.
Thereby – he managed foil the shady deal and prevented the import of a sub-standard warship whose acquisition would have compromised national security.
Inspector Lobo asks Commander Rustom Pavri:
“What about the other conspirators like the Senior Navy Officers, Defence Secretary etc…? Why didn’t you expose them and ensure that they got punished…?”
Commander Rustom Pavri says:
“If I had exposed them – the “image” of the Navy and Government would have got tarnished – so – I did not expose those persons in “high places” to protect the “reputation” of the nation…”
Does the movie want to give a “message” that it is okay to condone high-level corruption in shady Defence deals – on the specious logic that exposing high-ranking perpetrators will tarnish the “good image” of the Armed Forces, spoil the reputation of the Defence Establishment and embarrass the Government…?
In the Movie – Rustom displays “Misplaced Patriotism” by his misguided belief – that – he is defending the honour of the Navy and the Nation – by concealing the extent of the scam and withholding the names corrupt senior officers – due to which high-ranking perpetrators of the scam escape punishment and get away scot-free.
Hence – the “moral message” is that – for the “greater good” – it is justified to let wrongdoers get away scot-free just to protect the reputation of the organization.
Bizarre logic – isn’t it…?
Or maybe – it is not so bizarre.
Don’t we see such cases of “misplaced loyalty” in real life…?
“Image” and “Reputation” seem to matter more than “Ethics” and “Moral Values”.
This phenomenon is visible at work – at the organizational level – and – in personal life – at the familial level.
MISPLACED LOYALTY (The “Keep it in the Family” Syndrome)
“Misplaced Loyalty” makes you remain silent when you know you should speak up – at work – and – in personal life – especially when it comes to personal friendships and close family relationships.
We see this phenomenon of “misplaced loyalty” in organizations – in the military (under the garb of “izzat”) – and – in “civvy street” too – in civilian bureaucracy – in business houses and the corporate sector – and – of course – in political parties.
Engaging in misplaced loyalty in professional life entails complying with a “code of silence” about the internal affairs of your organization.
In the Military – “Regimental Loyalties” (keep it within the unit) – and “Ship Loyalties” (keep it within the ship) – are examples of such misplaced organizational loyalties.
At the family/personal level – incidents of Incest, Sexual Abuse, Inappropriate Behaviour, Adultery, Pedophilia and Domestic Violence that happen within a “family” – these incidents may be “hushed up” to avoid “washing dirty linen in public” – because of the fallacious fear – that exposing the wrongdoers may bring a “bad name” to the family and tarnish the reputation of the entire family.
I call it the “keep it in the family” syndrome.
The term “family” is used literally to mean personal family comprising relatives – as well as metaphorically – to refer to organizations (workplace “family”).
“Misplaced Loyalty” due to the “Keep it in the Family” syndrome sometimes makes you condone unethical acts of individuals/organizations who you feel are a “part of the family” and towards whom you feel a sense of “loyalty”.
“Misplaced Loyalty” attitudes of – “Keep it in the Family” – “Don’t Wash Dirty Linen in Public” – result in a “pseudo-ethical” tendency to “brush misdemeanors under the carpet” and “hush up” wrongdoings – due to which culprits get away scot-free.
Owing to these “Misplaced Loyalty” Mindsets in Organizations – Frauds, Scams and Cases of Sexual Misconduct are “hushed-up” – Corruption and Wrongdoings are not exposed – and – Scandals are swept under the carpet.
In some cases – even heinous crimes are “hushed up” – due to the propensity to “cover up” criminal activities due to the “Keep it in the Family” Syndrome.
Both at the macro-level and micro-level – in organizational environments – and – in family settings – “misplaced loyalty” due to the “keep it in family” syndrome may have deleterious consequences.
The ramification of this “misplaced loyalty” due to the “keep it in family” syndrome is that wrongdoers get emboldened to commit misdemeanors even more brazenly with disastrous consequences.
The widespread corruption, various scams/scandals and proliferation of crime bear testimony to this fact.
Due to the “keep it in the family” mindset – in workplaces and in family settings – if sexual perverts who indulge in “inappropriate behavior” are allowed to get away “scot-free” – they may get emboldened to commit worse misdemeanors like sexual harassment, sexual assault, rape etc.
“Misplaced Loyalty” is dangerous – for the “family” – and for society at large.
Even if it means “embarrassment” to the “family” – isn’t it better to “name and shame” wrongdoers and punish these malefactors at the very first instance…?
Exposing transgressors in the very first instance will help “nip things in the bud” – and – will deter these wrongdoers from committing graver misdemeanors – which may prove to be even more detrimental to the family/organization.
During my long career in the Navy – I did come across a few instances of attempts to “cover up” misconduct due to the “keep it in the family” syndrome – “Misplaced Loyalty” arising from “fear of reputation damage” – or – due to adherence to so-called pseudo “honour codes” prevalent in military training academies and in some regiments/units.
However – by and large – instances of misconduct were duly reported and the offenders were punished.
CONCLUSION
Coming back to the movie RUSTOM – it is one thing for a Naval Officer to commit an “Honour Killing” by shooting his wife’s illicit lover.
But – it is quite another thing for a Naval Officer to kill a Civilian Businessman who is a conspirator in a defence scam – while at the same time “protecting” high-ranking Navy Officers and Civilian Bureaucrats involved in the same scam – and justifying the “hush up” – on the bizarre logic – that exposing these high-ranking officers will tarnish the image of the Navy and the Nation.
I wish the movie had stuck to the original story – and – not twisted the story by a hotchpotch sub-plot about corruption in defence deals – and – ended up with the protagonist Commander Rustom Pavri justifying his “Misplaced Patriotism” – due to which – he does not expose corruption in the shady defence deal – on the specious logic – that “naming and shaming” corrupt high-ranking officers involved in the scam – would “tarnish the image” of the Navy (and Nation)
So – the protagonist (Commander Rustom Pavri) thereby allows the conspirators to get away scot-free and escape punishment for their misconduct.
Dear Reader:
Don’t you see examples of “Misplaced Loyalty” and “Keep it in the Family” Syndrome around you – due to which – instead of being punished – wrongdoers and culprits are allowed to escape punishment and get away scot-free – at both – the “macro level” – in politics, in bureaucracy, in the military, in corporates, in academia – and also at the “micro level” – in your workplace and among your family and friends...?
I feel that Misplaced Loyalty (due to the “keep it in the family” syndrome) is a garb for pseudo-ethics – and this proves detrimental to the greater good in the long run.
It is better to “wash” your “dirty linen” in public – rather than not “wash” your “dirty linen” at all and let it become unclean and filthy.
Dear Reader – Do you agree...?
VIKRAM KARVE
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This is a revised re-post of my blog post “Keep it in the Family” Syndromefirst posted online by me Vikram Karve on Monday, August 22, 2016 in my blog at url: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/08/keep-it-in-family-syndrome-misplaced.html and reposted at url: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/10/misplaced-loyalty-keep-it-in-family.html and https://karve.wordpress.com/2016/08/25/pseudo-ethics-misplaced-loyalty/ and https://karve.wordpress.com/2016/10/16/misplaced-loyalty/ and http://karvediat.blogspot.com/2017/06/keep-it-in-family-dont-wash-your-dirty.html etc
