Friday, August 2, 2013

DO YOU FEEL UNAPPRECIATED - How to Console Yourself and Raise Your Spirits - SELF CONSOLATION IS THE BEST SELF HELP

DO YOU FEEL FRUSTRATED BECAUSE NO ONE APPRECIATES YOU

SELF CONSOLATION IS THE BEST SELF HELP
By 
VIKRAM KARVE

All persons, at some point in their lives, experience frustration blues. 

This is more so if you are engaged in some creative activity. 

There are many occasions when people just do not appreciate your work. 

Even if people criticize you and do not appreciate your creative efforts you must not get disheartened and stop doing what you want to do. 

The best way is to console yourself and bash on regardless and continue to do whatever you are doing with renewed vigour and zeal.

Let me tell you one way to drive away frustration blues.

When I was in school our Literature Teacher would often yell at us:

“I Am Casting Pearls Before Swine”

I did not quite understand her anguish then, but now, I can fully empathize with her when I too sometimes feel the same way when my creative writing is not appreciated.

The idiom CAST PEARLS BEFORE SWINE means to offer something good to somebody who cannot appreciate the value of it. 

Yes, if you cast pearls before swine, you offer something of value to someone who does not appreciate it and does not understand its value (swine means pigs). 

Suppose you are an artist, a painter, and you show your painting to a person who knows nothing about art and is not interested in the fine things of life.

Or say you are a creative writer and show your fiction or poetry to someone who is not interested in literature.

Well, in such cases: “You are casting your pearls before swine”.

Why are you trying to seek appreciation from persons who are not interested in and have no knowledge of your art?

Now, I was wondering, how do you translate this phrase “I AM CASTING PEARLS BEFORE SWINE” into Hindi?

I suddenly remembered a blog post I had written a few months ago titled:

अन्धो के शहर में आइने बेच रहा हूँ  

I think this Hindi Phrase expresses the same sentiment as the English Idiom:

I AM CASTING PEARLS BEFORE SWINE

Let me tell you how I came across this Hindi idiom:


Sometime ago, one evening while surfing channels I watched a program on Zee Classic Television Channel called Classic Legends hosted by Javed Akhtar on the life of the famous poet and lyricist Majrooh Sultanpuri.

Javed Akhtar narrated an incident and a quote शेर ) by Majrooh Sultanpuri which I will never forget. 

Javed Akhtar met Majrooh Sultanpuri in the evening of his life and asked him how he was, to which the poet replied:

अन्धो के शहर में आइने बेच रहा हूँ 

which roughly translated means:

I AM SELLING MIRRORS IN THE CITY OF THE BLIND

This quote is still perambulating in my mind.
The more I delve on it I realize how profound these words are, especially for a creative writer whose work is not appreciated.
So whenever my novel manuscript is returned by a publisher with a rejection letter, or if people ignore my blog, I am going to console myself:

  अन्धो के शहर में आइने बेच रहा हूँ 

And then I am going to redouble my efforts and bash on regardless.

Isn't this a nice philosophy for creative persons and artists to adopt rather than get frustrated when their work is not appreciated? 

Is this not a much better way to drive away your frustration blues than indulging self-pity and doing harmful things like drowning your sorrows in drink, isn't it? 

So whenever you feel frustrated that your efforts are not being appreciated, ask yourself:

“Are you casting your pearls before swine?” 

Then continue your efforts with redoubled vigour and enthusiasm. 

Do not worry whether others appreciate your work or not. 

Do not crave for external appreciation. 

It is best to work for your own satisfaction.

Adopt this philosophy of life whenever someone does not appreciate you or your work, and say to yourself:

अन्धो के शहर में आइने बेच रहा हूँ 

I AM SELLING MIRRORS IN THE CITY OF THE BLIND

Have a Happy Weekend. 

VIKRAM KARVE
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A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer and blogger. Educated at IIT Delhi, IIT (BHU) Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and an anthology of short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional  and academic research papers in journals and edited in-house journals and magazines for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing and blogging. Vikram Karve lives in Pune India with his family and muse - his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

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