HOW TO CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS and PARTNERS
TRUST and RELATIONSHIPS
I trust people.
Depending on the way you look at it, one of my chief virtues (or shortcomings) is that I trust people. That is why it is easy for anyone to take me for a ride, and make an “April Fool” of me, as so many have done, and I will tell you about some hilarious episodes right here in my blog later.
Yes, I have a trusting nature.
That’s why I did not try my hand at business or take up a profession where one has to put on a mask of pretence, hide things, indulge in mendacity and be Machiavellian to succeed.
In the navy of yesteryear, we trusted each other – yes, officers of the “old mould” valued trust and, in fact, mutual trust was the main factor on which the system worked.
It has been my experience that trust is the key ingredient in any relationship, personal or professional, and it is always best to associate with trustworthy individuals and, even more important, it is especially important to have trustworthy friends and partners.
How do you find out whether a person is trustworthy?
Earlier you had to find this out the hard way, by experimenting with a relationship and undergoing some real-life experiences, trials and tribulations.
Nowadays, there is an easy way to find out, prima facie, whether an individual is trustworthy or not.
In today’s information technology age, everyone has a cyber identity.
So all you have to do is to see the person’s profile on Facebook or any other social networking site like LinkedIn, Google, Blogger, Gravatar, Twitter, Yahoo etc and you can find out the extent of genuineness in the individual’s cyber identity.
Is the person using her actual name or is she hiding behind a pseudonym or anonymous “handle” or fake identity?
Has the person uploaded her actual photographs or is she hiding behind confusing “avatars”?
How much information about herself has the person revealed in her profile?
Has the person unhesitatingly given her complete details – her contact details, her education and work experience, details of her family, friends, timeline of her life – a truly trustworthy person has nothing to hide.
Yes, a truly trustworthy person will be totally honest and transparent whereas an untrustworthy person will try to hide behind a mask of anonymity or, worse still, masquerade behind fake identities.
Yes, you have to take just one look at a profile and you can get an idea about how trustworthy a person is.
After that, it is for you to decide whether to have a relationship with that person or not, whether to befriend that person in the real world and in cyber space as well.
Yes, in today’s world you have to careful about virtual friendships in cyberspace, for many of these social network friendships have the likelihood of culminating into real world relationships.
Remember, it is trust that makes a relationship fulfilling and rewarding.
On the other hand, trust deficit can cause fissures in a relationship, which have a snowballing effect and lead to mistrust which ultimately destroys the relationship.
Before I end, I will give you one task as “homework”.
Have a look at your own Facebook Profile and tell us how “trustworthy” you are.
I eagerly await your answer and look forward to your comments and feedback.
Have a happy Friday and a great weekend ahead.