Showing posts with label alcoholic. Show all posts
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Friday, April 21, 2017

The Enticing Cocktail

Whenever I see someone motivating someone else to drink – I remember my story COCKTAIL – the title story of my Book of Short Stories about Relationships COCKTAIL 

Most of us pick up bad habits like drinking and smoking due to peer pressure – our friends motivating us to drink and smoke and be a part of the crowd. 

I saw this in the Navy. 

Maybe – I would not have started drinking alcohol had I not joined the Navy. 

Even some Navy Wives started drinking alcohol due to peer pressure”. 

Today – I observe that – though smoking is on the decline – drinking is on the rise – especially among youngsters. 

This is a fiction story – but then fiction is a dramatized version of the truth 

Yes – most fiction is based on real life incidents...

COCKTAIL
Fiction Short Story
By
VIKRAM KARVE

The moment she saw us, tears welled up in her eyes – there is nothing more shameful for a young bride than to see her husband helplessly drunk, staggering disgracefully in another woman’s arms.

I felt sorry for her.

It is true – to be married to a drunkard is the crown of all misery.

I lay him on the sofa, took off his shoes, put a pillow under his head – she, his wife, did not move but remained frozen with a look of anxious trepidation on her face.

The man who was dead drunk, Arun, lay in stupor, oblivious to the world.

It was only as I began to leave that his wife, Sadhana, rushed into my arms and broke down.

“He will be okay,” I hugged her warmly and comforted her.

“I want to die...I want to die...” she began screaming hysterically, “Why is this happening to me...?”

I sat her down, gave her a glass of cold water from the fridge, and said, “Sadhana, you just go to sleep now. Arun will be absolutely well in the morning. You don’t say anything to him – just ignore him – let him go to office. Then I will come here and we will talk.”

“You will come?” she pleaded.

“Yes, I will come in the morning and everything will be okay,” I calmed her.

I drove home late at night, lay alone in my lonely bed, commiserating, unable to sleep, wondering what to do.

I knew I had to do something, for I loved Arun dearly.

Hey, don’t get me wrong. It’s not what you’re thinking.

Tell me, can a woman love a man without ever having made love to him? Can a woman love a man without falling in love with him?

Of course she can – you can take my word for it – like I loved Arun.

Maybe it was our mutual chemistry or I don’t know what, but we certainly shared fantastic vibes, and we did love each other – Platonic, Ethereal, buddy-love – call it what you like.

Arun was my colleague and developing feelings of fondness for someone who you are in close proximity with for more than least ten hours every day is very natural – but he was much more than my “work spouse” – he was my soul mate.

Arun was my classmate from our student days in the States and I was not only his constant companion at work and socially, but also his closest confidante.

In such cases it is a thin line between friendship and having an affair, but we never crossed that line.

There were no secrets between us except the time he suddenly went to his hometown in the interiors of the mofussil and dutifully got married to the girl his parents had chosen for him.

Then he rang me up in the office, told me the news without much ado, and peremptorily commanded me to get his flat ready and come to the Mumbai Central Railway Station to receive him and his newly wedded wife.

I liked Arun’s wife Sadhana too.

She was a plump, graceful girl with a very pretty face and a sincere friendly smile which radiated a charming innocence.

She readily accepted me as a friend with honesty and openness  and she generously understood my relationship with Arun without a trace of suspicion, envy or rancour.

I could not bear to see the poor innocent girl suffer like this.

Tomorrow I would talk to her, counsel her  and I would talk to Arun  and find a solution  make them more compatible  so that they could be happy – and have a fun marriage.

But first – let me tell you how it all started.

Arun loved his drink.

In fact  he loved his drink a bit too much.

I think he had an innate propensity for alcohol.

I noticed this – and I told him once or twice – and then I let it go  as it was early days – and maybe – he was just enjoying himself  and I too didn’t quite mind sharing a spot of cheer in his affable company.

Maybe his parents knew this  Arun’s penchant for the bottle – and maybe  they thought that marriage was the panacea  and then they saw Sadhana – and they said to themselves: “She is a very good girl, from a cultured family, excellent upbringing – I am sure she will improve Arun with her love – and he will mend his ways after marriage. She’ll take care of him. Bring him around.”

It’s true  many people do seem to think the marriage is the easiest solution to many ills – like alcoholism  and everything will suddenly be happy ever after.

Sadhana’s marriage was a social triumph for her parents. 

She was an ordinary looking small town girl studying in college and it was almost a miracle – a stroke of good fortune  that the elders of the best known family in the town had come all the way their modest house  to meet the girl’s parents  to ask for their daughter Sadhana’s hand in marriage for their son Arun – a well-educated foreign returned top management executive.

It was a grand wedding. 

But I have heard somewhere that  sometimes  a grand wedding results in a disastrous marriage.

At first – Arun too was quite happy at his newly acquired simple naïve “provincial” wife – who he thought would be unquestioningly obedient – and acquiesce to his every whim and fancy.

Sadhana turned out exactly as he expected – a nurturing, caring, loving wife who did exactly what he wanted  pampered him to glory – and unquestioningly submitted to all his demands  except one – she did not allow even a drop of alcohol in their house. 

In this aspect of “no alcohol in the house” rule – she did not yield.

On her first day she cleaned out his well stocked bar  by simply throwing all the bottles of expensive booze down the garbage chute.

Arun tried to reason with her – he explained the ways of cosmopolitan culture – but Sadhana stuck to her guns, defiant.

And – when all of us at the office suddenly landed up for impromptu dinner with the big boss – presenting Arun a bottle of his favourite Single Malt  Sadhana promptly drained the precious whisky down the sink saying: “This Daru is evil stuff...” 

And then – Sadhana served us a delicious spur-of-the-moment meal.

This was the last straw...!!!

I noticed Arun seethe in silence – feeling totally humiliated in front of his colleagues, his juniors, his friends, and me  but  he did not say anything.

He reacted the next day  from that day onwards – Arun started drinking with vengeance.

Arun started drinking at the club bar  on his way home from work every night.

At first  I would give him company – but soon  I stopped accompanying him – as his drinking grew from bad to worse – and his behaviour would often become nasty after a few drinks.

And now this: 

A call at midnight from the club secretary desperately saying that my colleague and friend Arun had passed out stone drunk in the bar – and would I please take him away as they had to close up.

Next morning  I left the office around 10:30 AM  telling Arun that I was not feeling well – and – I went straight to his house.

Sadhana was waiting for me.

“Shall we have tea...?” she asked.

“No. Let’s go to the club,” I hustled her out of the house and bundled her into my car overruling her protests, “We can be more discreet there,” I said hinting at the servants  but I had other plans.

It was early  the club was empty.

I chose a lonely inconspicuous table. 

I ordered a Pina Colada Cocktail for myself and a Soft Drink for Sadhana.

“You’ve got to help him...” I said to Sadhana  I came straightaway to the point  not giving her a chance to start her sob story.

“Help him...? Of course I want to help him. But how...?”

“You adapt a bit – and he too will change and get better.”

“Adapt...? What should I do...?”

“Give him company.”

“What...?”

“Be his friend. Spend your evenings with him.”

“But he goes to the club every evening.”

“Go to the club with him, sit with him, meet his friends, chat, talk to him, and make friends with him. He will feel good. In fact  I would suggest that you join him in a drink once in a while and have a little fun.”

“What...?” Sadhana said flabbergasted, “You want me to drink liquor...? In my home – I have not even seen a drop of alcohol…”

“Relax, Sadhana  don’t be so dogmatic...” I took her hands in mine and calmed her down, “You are in a different society now. There is no harm in having a small cocktail, or some wine – now-a-days everyone does – even I do.”

“No. No…”

“Here, sip this...” I said giving her my glass of the lip-smacking sweet creamy Pina Colada.

“No. No. I can’t have this bitter strong stuff...” she protested.

“Try it, just once...” I insisted, almost forced her  and she took a tiny sip.

“It’s sweet and delicious isn’t it...? Now if you have a little bit for Arun’s sake – he will start enjoying your company. Arun needs companionship. Tell me Sadhana  isn’t it better he has a drink with you – than with his hard drinking friends...?  Isn’t it better that he rather spends his time in your company than with his good-for-nothing friends who are out to ruin him...?”

Sadhana gave me a hesitant look isn’t it better but she did not say anything.

But I could sense her desperation deep within her  that would make her try out anything, any remedy, any cure.

I looked into her eyes and said: “The trick is to wean him away from hard drinking to social drinking. That’s what will happen once he starts enjoying your company. I am telling you again. Be his friend. Spend your evenings with him. Go to the club, sit with him, have a drink. Arun will feel good. He will start liking you. Now drinking is his priority – soon you will be his priority.”

“I don’t know…” Sadhana faltered.

“Trust me. Try it. It will make life easier for both of you. Stop trying to control him.  It will never work. I know Arun well. If you nag him you will drive him away from you. Confrontations, threats, arguments – with these he will only get worse. Come on, Sadhana, for Arun’s sake, for your sake, give it a try, I am sure he will respond positively.”

Sadhana looked anxiously at me, nervous, unsure, yet desperate.

I stood up walked to her and gave her a loving hug: “You two are newly married. I want you to be able to laugh, relax, have fun and enjoy life to its fullest...!!!”

She hugged me in return.

“Promise me you’ll give it a try...” I said.

“I will try my best...” she promised.

It worked.

Arun sobered down.

And though he did enjoy his drinks – I never saw him drunk again.

The metamorphosis in Sadhana was truly fascinating.

The way she had transformed herself from a conservative Small Town Girl from the heart of the mofussil into a chic crème-de-la-crème socialite was remarkable, almost unbelievable. 

I would often see her sipping exotic colourful cocktails rubbing shoulders with the cream of society.

There was a time when Arun was ashamed of showing off his wife  now his heart swelled with pride and admiration as everyone noticed and praised her. 

Arun and Sadhana were the toast of society. 

The crowning glory was when they were crowned the “Made for Each Other Couple” at the New Year’s Eve Ball at the club.

Their marriage started rocking.

In fact their marriage rocked so much – that soon  comprehension dawned on me  that there cannot be three persons in a marriage – and  I gracefully withdrew from their lives. 

I changed my job  relocated – and yes  believe it or not  I got married to a nice young man and commenced a blissful married life of my own.

Of course  Arun and Sadhana attended my marriage – and at my wedding reception – Sadhana seemed to be in a vivaciously celebratory mood  swinging brightly and dancing wildly  downing glass after glass of bubbly Champagne.

My new husband and I honeymooned on a luxury cruise liner, sailing to exotic locales – a wedding gift from Arun and Sadhana.

At first we kept in touch. 

But  with the passage of time – as I settled comfortably in the cocoon of wedded bliss  the communication became less and less  and when my husband and I – we relocated abroad to the States – I lost touch altogether with Arun and Sadhana.

It was three years before I visited Mumbai again  and the first thing I did after depositing my baggage in the hotel – was to head towards Arun’s flat on Marine Drive.

It was early – and I wanted to catch him home before he left for work.

Arun and Sadhana were not at home. 

“Saheb and Memsaheb have gone to the Ashram...” the servants said.

“Ashram...?” I said surprised  and I asked them whether they could give me Arun’s mobile number.

They did give me Arun’s mobile number. 

So – I rang up Arun on his cell phone: 

“Hey, Arun  what are you you and your wife doing in an Ashram – have you given up the material world and taken up the spiritual path...?”

“No. No. It’s not that. This is not really the type of Ashram you are thinking – it’s a nature cure clinic...” Arun said.

“Nature Cure Clinic...?”

“Not exactly  you can say it’s a de-addiction centre  a sort of rehab...”

“Rehab...? You promised me Arun  you promised me that you would cut down your drinking – for her sake – poor thing – I hate you Arun…”

“Stop it...!!!” Arun interrupted angrily, “It is not me. I have given up drinking. It is my wife Sadhana – she has become an alcoholic.’

“What...?” I said, stunned.

“Yes. My wife Sadhana has become an alcoholic. Thanks to you and your stupid advice  she has hit the bottle. And now – will you please keep your advice to yourself and leave us alone...?” Arun said angrily and disconnected.

I cannot begin to describe the emotion I felt at that moment – when I realized how my good natured advice had terribly boomeranged.

But one thing is sure  I have never ever felt so terribly guilty in my life  till this very day. 

VIKRAM KARVE
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This is a revised and abridged version of my story COCKTAIL from my book COCKTAIL  my anthology of short stories about relationships published in the year 2011. I wrote this story 12 years ago in the year 2005. I have posted this story online a number of times earlier in my blogs including at url: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2011/09/cocktail.html  and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/06/cocktail-fiction-short-story.html  and  https://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/08/cocktail-story-of-small-town-girl.html  etc

Saturday, March 25, 2017

What is Alcoholism

WHAT IS ALCOHOLISM...? (in a nutshell)

BOOZE WISDOM 

ARE YOU A BORN ALCOHOLIC...?

I had never touched alcohol before I joined the Navy – and  I may have remained a non-drinker (a teetotaller)  if I had not joined the Navy.

In the 1970 when I joined the Navy  Naval social life revolved around drinking alcohol.

In the Navy  Alcohol was the social lubricant which fostered friendship and camaraderie.

Every occasion called for a drink  and any event  or party  official, social or personal  was celebrated by drinking copious amounts of alcohol.

For a rough and tough sailor  drinking was considered “macho” – a sign of manliness. 

Non-drinkers were mocked and ridiculed as effeminate weaklings.

In the Navy  as also  in the other arms of the Military  if you were a robust drinker who could hold his liquor well  you were considered a good officer.

Good drinking capacity was a sign of good OLQ (Officer Like Qualities).

Good Officers were those who had great capacities for drinking  and  a good Naval Officer was not supposed to get drunk even after imbibing large quantities of alcohol.

There was a saying in the Navy: 

“Officers never get drunk  they only feel nice....

On the other hand  a teetotaller was considered a sissy.

In a nutshell  the Naval Social Environment encouraged and eulogized Drinking 

And  as I said earlier  drinking alcohol was the mainstay of Naval Social Life (and I am sure the same was true of Army Social Life as well).

It was the Navy that introduced me to the delights of alcohol.

And  it is in the Navy that I acquired my drinking wisdom  or “booze wisdom”  as I call it.

So  Dear Reader  let me share some of my “booze wisdom” with you.

Cheers !!!

BOOZE WISDOM 

ALCOHOLICS ARE BORN  NOT MADE
An Alcoholic is Born  Not Made
Sober Ramblings of an Veteran Alcoholic
By
VIKRAM KARVE

Disclaimer:
These are my personal views based on my own experience. They may or may not be applicable in your circumstances. This experiential wisdom may not have any scientific basis. You may please do your own due diligence before you pick up a drink of alcohol.

I AM AN ALCOHOLIC WHO DOES NOT DRINK ALCOHOL

ONCE AN ALCOHOLIC  ALWAYS AN ALCOHOLIC

I am an alcoholic.

I am an alcoholic who does not drink alcohol.

Yes  at present  I am a “teetotaller”.

I am an alcoholic.

And  I am also a teetotaller.

So  I guess you call me an “alcoholic teetotaller”.

Do you think I am crazy...?

Let me explain.

You must have heard the dictum:

1. All those who drink alcohol do not become alcoholics

2. But – all alcoholics drink alcohol


I agree with the first part of the saying.

Yes: “all those who drink alcohol do not become alcoholics...”.

But  I do not agree with the second part of the saying  which says that: “all alcoholics drink alcohol...”.

This is not entirely true.

There are many “alcoholics” who do not drink alcohol.

For example  there is me.

I am an alcoholic who does not drink alcohol.

Of course  there was a time when I drank plenty of alcohol.

Let me tell you of the stages of my life as far as alcohol is concerned.


MY LIFE STAGES AS AN ALCOHOLIC

My life can be divided into 3 phases:

1. ABSTINENCE 

From Birth to Adulthood (0 – 21 years) – my student days – when I did not touch alcohol.

2. DRINKING DAYS

The Prime Years of my Life (21 – 46 years) – my drinking days  when I drank plenty of alcohol.

3. TEMPERANCE

My Acme Years (46 years onwards till today) – my temperance years of teetotalism – after I quit drinking alcohol at the age of 46. 

(Yes – I quit drinking alcohol 15 years ago at the age of 46 – after 25 years of dedicated drinking from the age of 21 to 46)


GENETIC PREDISPOSITION and ENVIRONMENTAL PROVOCATION

You may ask me: 

“How can you be an alcoholic if you could quit drinking alcohol...?”

Or  in other words: 

“Can you remain an alcoholic even after you have quit drinking alcohol...?”

The answer is YES

You can remain an alcoholic even after you quit drinking alcohol.

Let me elucidate.

You must have heard a saying:

LEADERS ARE BORN  NOT MADE

In a similar vein  I would like to say:

ALCOHOLICS ARE BORN  NOT MADE

Yes  an alcoholic is born  not made

I was a born alcoholic.

However  I did not get a chance to drink alcohol till the age of 21.

So  I remained a “latent alcoholic” (or you may say  I was a “potential alcoholic”).

At 21  after I had joined the Navy  I had my first drink of Alcohol.

This first drink activated the “alcoholism switch” in my brain.

I realized how much I loved drinking alcohol.

I enjoyed drinking – and so  alcohol became an important part of my life.


ENVIRONMENTAL PROVOCATION

In the Navy  the environment was conducive to drinking Alcohol 

In fact  the Naval Social Environment provoked you to drink Alcohol

(Maybe it is the same in the Army and some other professions too  where drinking alcohol is a part of life  and you have to resist the temptation if you want to remain a teetotaller)

I realized that  if you are an “alcoholic”  the Navy is probably the best place to be in.

Naval life revolved around drinking alcohol.

In the Navy  alcohol was the social lubricant which fostered friendship and camaraderie.

Sitting in the bar drinking together  in wardrooms on-board ships  and in officers messes and clubs ashore  strangers become friends as they drank together.

Those glorious drinking scenes of bonhomie established enduring bonds of comradeship and friendship – which have lasted even till today.

Yes  alcohol was the golden bond of fellowship.

My best friends were my Navy drinking buddies  cutting across rank, seniority and age.

In the Navy  every occasion calls for a drink.

Any event  official, social or personal  was celebrated by drinking copious amounts of alcohol.

“Make and mend” days – or “stripe wetting” ceremonies  were celebrated by “elbow bending” PLDs (Pre Lunch Drinks) – where beer was guzzled by the gallon.

You were not allowed to drink when sailing.

But  whenever you were in harbour  or posted in a shore billet  you drank liquor almost every evening – there were cocktail parties, mess nights, or informal booze-up get-togethers of friends  or you just went across to the wardroom, officers mess or club for a drink.

The best of duty-free foreign liquor was available in wardrooms on ships. 

And ashore too  Navy Officers Mess Bars and Navy Canteens were well stocked with the best Indian brands of Booze (IMFL aka Indian Manufactured Foreign Liquor).

In a nutshell  the Naval Social Environment encouraged and eulogized drinking.

If you were a robust drinker who could hold his liquor well  you were considered a good officer  and it was accepted that you had good OLQ (Officer Like Qualities).

On the other hand  a teetotaller was considered a sissy.

Drinking was considered “macho” – a sign of manliness – and non-drinkers were mocked and ridiculed as effeminate weaklings.

In fact  I sometimes wondered why these non-drinkers had joined the Navy  since  alcohol was the main attraction of Naval Life.

Almost every Naval Officer drank alcohol  and there were hardly any teetotallers.

Drinking was the mainstay of Naval Social Life.

As I told you earlier  PLDs, Cocktail Parties, Formal Mess Nights, Formal Social Calls and informal drinking binges were a regular feature.

At parties – I felt pity  watching the few teetotallers – as they suffered a torturous time holding a soft drink for hours  while all of us enjoyed our booze during those glorious Navy parties.

This alcohol-conducive environment – which enthused and provoked drinking – was ideal for a “latent alcoholic” like me  to turn into a “full blown alcoholic”.

Since I was a “born alcoholic”  I already had a genetic predisposition to alcoholism (alcoholism is in my DNA).

However  till I joined the Navy  because I did not drink alcohol  I remained a “latent alcoholic”.

The various reasons due to which I did not drink alcohol as a young student can be summed up in a nutshell as: 

“In my younger days – my environment was not conducive to drinking alcohol...”

So  I remained a “latent alcoholic”.

The moment I joined the Navy  the environment became very conducive for drinking alcohol  and  this “environmental provocation” was the trigger  the impetus and the catalyst – which transformed my “latent alcoholism” into “full blown alcoholism”.

Thus  Alcoholism” is a combination of “genetic predisposition” and “environmental provocation


ALCOHOLISM = GENETIC PREDISPOSITION + ENVIRONMENTAL PROVOCATION

Alcoholism” is a combination of “genetic predisposition” and “environmental provocation

We can express this as a mathematical formula:

Alcoholism = Genetic Predisposition + Environmental Provocation

I had the genetic predisposition or propensity for alcoholism.

But  in my younger student days  there was an absence of environmental provocation – so I remained a “latent alcoholic”.

The moment I joined the Navy  the conducive environmental provocation triggered my genetic predisposition.

The “alcoholism switch” was activated in my brain – and my penchant for alcohol was allowed to manifest and flourish.

Before I realized it  I was on the road to alcohol dependence and full blown alcoholism.

But  a time did come when  I did realize that I if continued drinking alcohol  I would eventually slip into the abyss of alcoholism to the point of no return.

I had seen this happening to a few of my seniors  who had become alcohol dependent  and some had turned into full blown alcoholics.

I have seen this happening in the civilian world too.

Many say that alcoholism is on the rise.

In the strict sense  alcoholism always existed - only earlier  alcoholism is was not so visible  as – due to taboos and the fact that access to alcohol was not easy – many potential alcoholics did not have the opportunity to manifest into full-blown alcoholics.

In the past too  there were always many “latent alcoholics” with genetic predisposition” to alcoholism.

However  due to various cultural taboos and non-availability of alcohol due to prohibition policies  these “latent alcoholics” did not get a chance to become “full blown alcoholics” (due to absence of environmental provocation).

This aspect is particularly evident in women.

Earlier  owing to cultural taboos  women did not drink alcohol  so many women “latent alcoholics” who may have had a genetic predisposition to alcohol did not get a chance to become “full blown alcoholics”  since there was absolutely no environmental provocation”.

Now  drinking taboos are being slowly removed  especially in modern urban society.

The urban social environment becoming more and more conducive for women to drink alcohol.

This gives an opportunity for women who are “latent alcoholics” to become “full blown alcoholics”. 


WAKE UP CALL

The first “wake up call” I got was at a cocktail party around 15 years ago.

I drank 11 large pegs of whisky (almost a full bottle).

However  this huge amount of alcohol had no effect on me.

Neither I  nor anyone else  nobody could discern – that I had consumed such an enormous amount of alcohol.

In fact  it was a friend who told me next morning – about the enormous amount of whisky I had consumed  and he commented that  he was surprised to see me behaving absolutely soberly without even a trace of drunkenness. 

He wondered as to how I could be normal after consuming 11 large pegs of whisky  when just 6 pegs of whisky made him feel drunk.

This meant that my Alcohol Tolerance Level had increased enormously 

And – this was the first danger signal of impending trouble if I continued drinking alcohol.

I decided to stop drinking alcohol.

I had no choice.

I had a “genetic predisposition” to alcoholism.

Alcoholism was in my DNA – and  there was nothing I could do about it.

So  the only option was to tackle “environmental provocation”.

I drastically changed my lifestyle  and – I tried to be in a “non-alcoholic environment”.

Even now  more than 15 years since I quit drinking  I try to avoid “environmental provocation” to drink alcohol.

This has certainly affected my social life.

I avoid occasions and places where alcohol is served.

I do not keep alcohol at home.

And  ever since I stopped keeping booze at home  a lot of my friends have stopped visiting me.

You may feel that these may seem extreme steps  and you may laugh at me – but then  you are not a “born alcoholic”.

Whether I like it or not  I am a “born alcoholic” – and that is why I have to be careful.


ARE YOU A BORN ALCOHOLIC”...?

How do you discover if you are a “born alcoholic”...?

If you do not drink  you will never come to know  and  that is the best thing.

But – the moment you have your first drink of alcohol  the “alcoholism switch” triggers in your brain – and you will come to know that you are a “born alcoholic” – and – you will start loving alcohol more than anything else. 

Yes if you are a “born alcoholic” – once the “alcoholism switch” triggers in your brain you will start loving alcohol more than anything else

And then  you know what to do...?

If you are a “born alcoholic”  then you have to control the “environmental provocation” (to drink alcohol)

Yes – you must control the “environmental provocation” – so that it does not impel you towards drinking.

Otherwise  the deadly combination of “genetic predisposition” and “environmental provocation” – it can make you “alcohol dependent” – and gradually turn you into a “full blown alcoholic”.

Remember: 

An Alcoholic is Born  not Made.

Yes: 

“Alcoholics are Born  Not Made.

Dear Reader: 

Tell me one thing: 

What should you do once you discover that you are a “born alcoholic”...?

Is it wise to live in denial and ultimately become a full-blown alcoholic...?

Or  is it better to be frank like me and candidly say:

“I am an alcoholic – and  that is why I do not drink alcohol...”

VIKRAM KARVE
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Disclaimer:
1. These are my personal views based on my own experience. They may or may not be applicable in your circumstances. This experiential wisdom may not have any scientific basis. You may please do your own due diligence before you pick up a drink of alcohol.
2. All stories in this blog are a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the stories are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

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