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Thursday, March 2, 2017

The “Business” of “Marriage”

The “Business” of “Marriage”
Matrimonial Musings
A Story
By
VIKRAM KARVE  

Visit to the Marriage Bureau 

Pune 
Circa: 1980

Around 37 years ago – in the year 1980 – I went to a “Marriage Bureau” in Pune.

All my attempts at finding a suitable bride through the “love” route had failed.

So – I decided to go in for an “arranged marriage”.

The Proprietors of the Marriage Bureau were a “made-for-each-other-couple” – who seemed to be in their early 40’s.

The man and the woman sat side by side in the same office as true partners.

They seemed to be a most compatible couple.

The harmony in their relationship was visible in their demeanour – and I was convinced that they were true “soulmates”.

Seeing this “ideal couple” at the helm of affairs – it inspired confidence in me.

I knew that I had come to the right place – only a truly happily married couple whose relationship was rocking would know the “compatibility aspects” required for a happy marriage.

I was sure that this “made-for-each-other couple” would find the best bride for me.

Both of them asked me a number of questions – regarding myself – and also – about my “expectations” – as far as the bride was concerned.

Within a week – they had lined up three girls for me to “see”.

I liked the very first girl I “saw” – in a typical “kande-pohe” ceremony at her place. 

The girl also liked me. 

So – we both said “yes” to each other.

For the sake of courtesy – I “saw” the other 2 girls too – and I liked both of them.

But then – legally – I could have only one wife.

So – I got married to the first girl to whom I had said “yes”.

All the 3 girls the “Marriage Bureau” had suggested were a “perfect match” for me.

This was “proof of the pudding” – that – the “made-for-each-other couple” who ran the “Marriage Bureau”  – they knew what marriage was all about.


36 Years Later

Meeting the “Matchmakers” 

Pune
01 January 2016

It was a grand event – in the best 5 Star Hotel in town – to celebrate the Golden Jubilee (50th Anniversary) of the ‘Marriage Bureau’.

Yes – the ‘Marriage Bureau’ had been started 50 years ago – was still going strong – in fact – they now had a global presence – and operated online through their website – and – today – they had launched their ‘Mobile Matrimonial App’ too.

It was a huge event – and the crowd must have been at least a thousand strong – maybe even 2000 – and – it seemed that most of the couples whose marriages had been “arranged” by this “marriage bureau” had made it a point to attend.

They had even tracked us down to our present address in New York – and since we were in India for our annual Christmas Vacations – we – my wife and I – made it a point to attend the function.

The proprietors of the ‘marriage bureau’ – who – most probably – were now in their late 70’s – still looked a very “made-for-each-other couple”.

Both of them were in perfect harmony with each other – like “soulmates” – a “perfect” couple – and they acted like perfect hosts.

Dressed in matching colour-coordinated clothes, the two of them stood together at the entrance to welcome us – and – later – after they had cut the magnificent anniversary cake together – both of them moved around to personally greet us and ensure that our glasses were topped up, our plates were full and we were being well looked after.

During the party – many couples expressed their gratitude to the “made-for-each-other couple” proprietors of the ‘marriage bureau’ – and – I too made it a point to meet them and thank them for finding me a most suitable bride.

After the event – we – my wife and I – walked to the foyer of the hotel – and I asked the concierge to get me a taxi to Aundh – when – a male voice suddenly said from behind: “Why Taxi…? I am going towards Aundh – I will drop you in my car…”

I turned around – it was the ‘Proprietor’ of the ‘Marriage Bureau’ – our host.

Soon – his chauffeur driven limousine arrived.

“You two sit on the rear seat – I will sit in front with the driver…” he said to me and my wife.

“Sir – but what about “Madam”…? Isn’t she coming…?” I said.

“…“Madam”…? Which “Madam” are you talking about…?” he asked.

“Sir – by “Madam” – I meant your wife – isn’t your wife coming with you in the car...?” I said to the the ‘Proprietor’ of the ‘Marriage Bureau’.

“My “wife”…? Ha Ha... Well – I don’t have a wife – I am a bachelor…” he said.

I was stunned.

On seeing my bewilderment – the ‘Proprietor’ of the ‘Marriage Bureau’ said to me: 

“Don’t feel embarrassed – it happens quite often...

Many people think that my “Business Partner” is also my “Life Partner”...

But – we are quite clear about it...

We never mix “Business” with “Matrimony”...

“Business” is “Business” – and – “Marriage” is “Marriage”…

You should never mix “Business” with “Marriage”...”

VIKRAM KARVE
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Wednesday, November 30, 2016

The Matchmaking “Business” – Matrimonial Musings

The Matchmaking “Business”
Matrimonial Musings
A Story
By
VIKRAM KARVE  

Visit to the Marriage Bureau

More than 36 years ago – in the year 1980 – I went to a “Marriage Bureau” in Pune.

All my attempts at finding a suitable bride through the “love” route had failed – and I decided to go in for an “arranged marriage”.

The Proprietors of the Marriage Bureau were a “made-for-each-other-couple” – who seemed to be in their early 40’s.

The man and the woman sat side by side in the same office as true partners.

They seemed to be a most compatible couple – and the harmony which was visible in their demeanour indicated that they were true “soulmates”.

Seeing this “ideal couple” at the helm of affairs inspired confidence in me.

I knew that I had come to the right place – only a truly happily married couple whose relationship was rocking would know the “compatibility aspects” required for a happy marriage – and they would surely find the right bride for me.

Both of them asked me a number of questions – regarding myself – and also – about my “expectations” as far as the bride was concerned.

Within a week – they had lined up 3 girls for me to “see”.

I liked the very first girl I “saw” – and we both said “yes” to each other.

For the sake of courtesy – I “saw” the other 2 girls too – and I liked both of them – but then – legally – I could have only one wife – so – I got married to the first girl to whom I had said “yes”.

The fact the all the 3 girls the ‘Marriage Bureau’ had suggested were a “perfect match” for me – was “proof of the pudding” – that – the “made-for-each-other couple” who ran the ‘marriage bureau’ knew what marriage was all about.

36 Years Later

01 January 2016 

Meeting the “Matchmakers”

It was a grand event – in the best 5 Star Hotel in town – to celebrate the Golden Jubilee (50th Anniversary) of the ‘Marriage Bureau’.

Yes – the ‘Marriage Bureau’ had been started 50 years ago – was still going strong – in fact – they now had a global presence – and operated online through their website – and – today – they had launched their ‘Mobile Matrimonial App’ too.

It was a huge event – and the crowd must have been at least a thousand strong – maybe even 2000 – and – it seemed that most of the couples whose marriages had been “arranged” by this “marriage bureau” had made it a point to attend.

They had even tracked us down to our present address in New York – and since we were in India for our annual Christmas Vacations – we – my wife and I – made it a point to attend the function.

The proprietors of the ‘marriage bureau’ – who – most probably – were now in their late 70’s – still looked a very “made-for-each-other couple”.

Both of them were in perfect harmony with each other – like “soulmates” – a “perfect” couple – and they acted like perfect hosts.

Dressed in matching colour-coordinated clothes, the two of them stood together at the entrance to welcome us – and – later – after they had cut the magnificent anniversary cake together – both of them moved around to personally greet us and ensure that our glasses were topped up, our plates were full and we were being well looked after.

During the party – many couples expressed their gratitude to the “made-for-each-other couple” proprietors of the ‘marriage bureau’ – and – I too made it a point to meet them and thank them for finding me a most suitable bride.

After the event – we – my wife and I – walked to the foyer of the hotel – and I asked the concierge to get me a taxi to Aundh – when – a male voice suddenly said from behind: “Why Taxi…? I am going towards Aundh – I will drop you in my car…”

I turned around – it was the ‘Proprietor’ of the ‘Marriage Bureau’ – our host.

Soon – his chauffeur driven limousine arrived.

“You two sit on the rear seat – I will sit in front with the driver…” he said to me and my wife.

“Sir – but what about ‘madam’…? Isn’t she coming…?” I said.

“…‘Madam’…? Which ‘Madam’…?” he asked.

“Sir – your wife…” I said to the the ‘Proprietor’ of the ‘Marriage Bureau’.

“My ‘wife’…? Well – I don’t have a wife – I am a bachelor…” he said.

I was stunned.

On seeing my bewilderment – the ‘Proprietor’ of the ‘Marriage Bureau’ said to me: 

“Don’t feel embarrassed – it happens quite often...

Many people think that my “Business Partner” is also my ‘Life Partner”...

But – we are quite clear about it...

We never mix “Business” with “Matrimony”...

“Business” is “Business” – and – “Matrimony” is “Matrimony”…”

VIKRAM KARVE
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This story is a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the story are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

Copyright Notice:
No part of this Blog may be reproduced or utilized in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical including photocopying or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Blog Author Vikram Karve who holds the copyright.

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This is a re-post of my story MARRIAGE BUREAU posted by me Vikram Karve online earlier in my Academic and Creative Writing Journal Blog at urls: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/01/marriage-bureau.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/02/the-matchmakers-story.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/09/the-business-of-matrimony.html

Friday, April 20, 2012

HOW TO REMAIN HAPPILY UNMARRIED


HOW TO REMAIN HAPPILY UNMARRIED
Food for Thought
By
VIKRAM KARVE
There is a beautiful and bright young Techie Girl who lives in my neighbourhood. 
She wants to get married but it seems that she just can’t seem to find anyone suitable matching her "stringent" requirements. 

She is surrounded by so many “eligible” boys, colleagues at work, in her friends circle, if she prefers a "love" marriage; and also she has “seen” and “rejected” a large number of boys her parents and well-wishers keep lining up for her, in case she wants to go in for an "arranged" marriage. 

None of the boys seems to come up to her perfect standards and high expectations.

But one thing is sure - she does want to get married.

I wonder whether I should tell her this apocryphal Mulla Nasrudin Teaching story titled
THE PERFECT WIFE

Mulla Nasrudin was sitting in a tea shop when a friend came excitedly to speak with him.

“I am about to get married,” his friend said, “and I am so very excited.”

“Congratulations,” Mulla Nasrudin said, nonchalant,  pokerfaced.

“Tell me, Nasrudin, have you ever thought of marriage yourself?” the about to get married friend asked Mulla Nasrudin who had remained a chronic bachelor.

Nasrudin replied, “Of course I did think of getting married. In my youth, in fact, I very much wanted to get married.”

“So, what happened...?” the friend asked curious.

“I wanted to find for myself the perfect wife,” Nasrudin said, “so I travelled looking for the perfect wife. I first went toDamascus. There I met a beautiful woman who was gracious, kind, and deeply spiritual, but she had no worldly knowledge."

"Oh, how sad...!" said the friend, " then what did you do...?

"Then I travelled further and went to Isphahan. There I met a woman who was both spiritual and worldly, beautiful in many ways, but her social graces were not of the highest standards.”

“What a tragedy...then what did you do...you gave up...?” the friend asked.

“No...No...I don't give up so easily...and I very much wanted  to get married...so I kept on searching for the perfect wife and travelled all over the world meeting so many women..." Nasrudin said.

“And did you find her...? Tell me, did you finally find the perfect wife...?” the friend asked eagerly.

“Yes,” Nasrudin said, “after travelling all over finally I went to Cairo and there after much searching I found her. She was spiritually deep, graceful, and beautiful in every respect, at home in the world and at home in the realms beyond it. I knew I had found the perfect wife.”

“Then why did you not marry her...?” the friend asked excitedly.

“Alas,” said Nasrudin as he shook his head in dismay, “Unfortunately, she was searching for the perfect husband.”

Please close your eyes and introspect. 
Though this story is about marriage (finding the perfect wife), it applies to everyone who is obsessed with "perfection" in any aspect of life.
Do apply the story to yourself, to others, to situations you have observed yourself and others who strive for achieving "perfection" to the point of obsession. They not only want things to be perfect, they also want people to be "perfect".
And if you are young and searching for a "perfect" soulmate or spouse, do remember this story, otherwise you will keep searching for your perfect mate all your life until it is too late and maybe you will remain single all your life ... LOL
VIKRAM KARVE
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About Vikram Karve

A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer. Educated at IIT Delhi, ITBHU Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and he is currently working on his novel. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles in magazines and journals for many years before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for almost 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing. Vikram lives in Pune India with his family and muse - his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts. 


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