Showing posts with label single mother. Show all posts
Showing posts with label single mother. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Forgotten Baby Syndrome (FBS)

FORGOTTEN BABY SYNDROME (FBS)

BABY AND CHILD CARE
A Story
By
VIKRAM KARVE

This happened 32 years ago – in mid-1985.

I was newly posted as an Instructor (“Directing Staff” – in “Pongo” jargon) at IAT Girinagar Pune – which – in those days – was the premier inter-service advanced technology training institution.

On my very first evening – I set off on a long walk in the beautiful verdant campus nestled in the hills.

On the way – I noticed a pram (perambulator) – with a baby inside.

The baby was around one year old.

The baby was sitting inside the pram.

The pram was unattended.

It was the height of summer – and – the hot sun was shining brightly – directly on the baby.  

Yes – the baby’s face was exposed to the bright sun.

The baby’s face had become red – and – the baby’s eyes were cringed with irritation.

The baby was crying due to discomfort.

I moved the pram into the shade – and  I looked around.

I saw a group of maids chatting nearby.

I called out to them.

A woman came running. 

It was obvious the she was the “ayah” responsible for looking after the baby.

I admonished the maid for leaving the baby unattended in the hot sun.

Well – “admonish” may be a mild word – I shouted at the maid – and  I gave her a severe scolding for neglecting her duties and leaving the baby all alone in the hot sun.

I told the maid to take the baby home – and I waited – till the maid walked away with the pram.

Thereafter – I proceeded on a long evening walk.

On the way back – I stopped off the Officers’ Mess Library to browse magazines. 

Then – I had a couple of drinks in the Bar.

I returned home in “high spirits” at around 8 PM.

The door was open.

I walked in.

I saw a beautiful woman sitting inside holding a baby in her arms.

I recognized the baby – it was the same baby who was left in the hot sun by her maid.

So – this was the mother of the baby who I had rescued from the hot sun.

I thought the lady had come to thank me for my good deed.

But – that lady had not come to thank me. 

Yes – the mother of the baby had not come to thank me.

The mother of the baby was annoyed with me – and – she had come to caution me.

“Why did you shout at my maid…?” the lady asked me angrily.

“Your “ayah” had left the baby all alone in the hot sun…” I said.

“There was no need to shout at my maid…”

“But – your baby was crying – your baby was feeling uncomfortable in the hot sun – and your maid was chatting away…”

“That’s none of your business – it is my baby and I will see what to do. Do you know – all because of you – my maid so upset – that  she is threatening to leave me…”

“You should sack her for being negligent in her duties and not looking after your baby properly…”

“Oh. You want me to sack my maid…? And – what should I do…? Should I quit my job and sit at home all day to look after my child…?”

I was about to say: “Yes – you should quit your job and look after your baby yourself instead of outsourcing baby-care to a maid...

But – before I could say anything – luckily – my wife came out of the kitchen carrying a tray with two cups of coffee.

With her eyes – my wife motioned me to remain silent.

The lady kept her baby on the sofa beside her. 

Then – the lady said to my wife: 

“Please tell your husband not to shout at my maid again. I have a full-time job – I leave my house at 9 in the morning and I come back after 6 in the evening – I am totally dependent on my maid for looking after my baby – so – if my maid quits – I will be in a big problem – I am sure you know how difficult it is to get a full-time maid…”

Once again – I was tempted to tell the lady: “Why don’t you quit your job and look after your baby yourself...? Why are you handing over your baby to a maid...?”

But – I saw my wife desperately signalling to me to keep my mouth shut. 

It was clear that my wife had guessed what I wanted to say – so – she was signalling to me to keep my mouth shut.

My wife said to the lady: 

“I am sorry for the trouble – in future – my husband will mind his own business…”  

I went inside.

When I came out – the lady with the baby had left.

“She is a funny woman – her maid was neglecting the baby and had kept the pram in the hot sun – I did a good deed by scolding the maid – and – instead of thanking me – the baby’s mother is annoyed with me…” I said to my wife.

“Try to understand – she is a “career woman” – she has to work full-time all-day at the office – so – she needs someone to look after her baby…” my wife said.

“Why do women have babies if they don’t want to look after them…?” 

VIKRAM KARVE
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1. This story is a fictional spoof, satire, just for fun and humor, no offence is meant to anyone, so take it with a pinch of salt and have a laugh.
2. This story is a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the story are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

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Revised Version on my story BABY AND CHILD CARE posted online earlier in my Academic and Creative Writing Journal Blog on January 9, 2017 at url: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2017/01/baby-and-child-care.html

Saturday, December 12, 2015

Are You a “SUPERWOMAN”

Are You a “SUPERWOMAN”...?

Are you a woman who is performing multiple roles – a wife, a mother, a career woman, a friend, and so many more? 

Here is a poem I wrote long back which I feel every “superwoman” who multitasks must read  and so must every man who has a relationship with a multifaceted multitasking modern “superwoman”.

BTW – I wrote this poem after observing a “superwoman”.

Do tell me if you like the poem.


SUPER WOMAN
Story of a Multi-Faceted Multi-Tasking Modern Woman
A Poem 
By
VIKRAM KARVE
 

Super Woman  everyone said.

Super Competent  her appreciative employers said.

Super Reliable  her impressed clients said.

Super Talented  her professional peers said.

Super Boss  her devoted subordinates said.

Super Bitch  her jealous frustrated loser colleagues said. 

Super Shrewd  her business rivals said.

Super Fit  her fitness freak buddies at her gym said.

Super Sexy  her admirers said.

Super Lover  her lovers said.

Super Achiever  her teachers and professors said.

Super Parent  her children’s teachers said.

Super Friend  all her acquaintances said.

Super Daughter  her parents and in-laws said.

Super Wife  her husband said.

Super Mom  her children said 

(But secretly  her children wished that their mother stayed home like their grandmother who was always there for them)


VIKRAM KARVE
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Saturday, December 22, 2012

REACTING TO FALSE ACCUSATION - A Zen Story - IS THAT SO


REACTING TO FALSE ACCUSATION
A Zen Teaching Story – IS THAT SO
Retold By
VIKRAM KARVE

What do you do when someone levels false accusations at you?

What do you say when someone wrongly accuses you of something you haven’t done?

It is simple. 

You calmly say: “IS THAT SO?”

And then get along with your life as is exemplified in the Zen Teaching Story below:


Is That So?
(A Zen Teaching Story)

The Zen master Hakuin was praised by his neighbours as one living a pure life.

A beautiful girl whose parents owned a food store lived near Hakuin’s house.

Suddenly, her parents discovered that the beautiful girl was pregnant.

Her angry parents demanded to know who the father of the baby was.

At first the beautiful girl refused to confess, but after great threats and coercion the anxious and embarrassed girl finally pointed to Hakuin, the Zen Master, whom everyone previously revered for living such a pure life.

When the outraged parents confronted Hakuin with their daughter’s accusation, the Zen Master Hakuin simply replied in a very calm tone: “Is that so?”

Hakuin was ostracized from society and treated like a pariah by the whole village for committing this grave sin.

When the child was born, the parents brought the baby to the Hakuin. 

They demanded that he take care of the child since he was the father and it was his responsibility.

“Is that so?” an unperturbed Hakuin said calmly and he accepted the child with a smile.

By this time Hakuin had lost his reputation, which did not trouble him, but he took very good care of the child. 

He obtained milk from the market and lovingly cared and tended to the baby.

Hakuin showered profuse love on the baby as if she were his very own child.

One year later the girl who had given birth to the baby could stand it no longer. After all, she was a mother and pined for her baby.

She told her parents the truth – that the real father of the child was a young man who lived in the neighbourhood, her clandestine lover who she was trying to protect. 

She confessed that she had wrongly accused Hakuin.

The contrite parents immediately went to Hakuin and apologized profusely. 

They explained what had happened and begged his forgiveness.

“Is that so?” said Hakuin after hearing the true story.

Seeing how lovingly Hakuin had brought up the baby, the parents of the girl very hesitantly requested if he could return the child back to the mother.

Hakuin smilingly handed over the child, and while doing so, all he said was: “Is that so?”

VIKRAM KARVE
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About Vikram Karve

A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer and blogger. Educated at IIT Delhi, IIT (BHU) Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and an anthology of short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional  and academic research papers in journals and edited in-house journals and magazines for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing and blogging. Vikram Karve lives in Pune India with his family and muse - his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

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