Tuesday, January 10, 2012

COMMUNICATION CAN MISFIRE - So Think Before You Speak

EFFECTS OF COMMUNICATION
Stimulus and Response (the SR Paradigm)
By
VIKRAM KARVE

Why do you speak…?

The aim of any communication is to produce a desired effect on the audience.

Communication is a stimulus and the effect of communication is the response
that we elicit from the recipient of our communication.

On many occasions communication has unintended effects, much to the embarrassment of the speaker. Your objective may to motivate the person but he may think you are patronizing him. It all depends on the situation and frame of mind at that moment.

So before you speak, you must ask yourself: 

“What effect will my words have on the person to whom I am speaking…?”

You must be clear in your mind what outcome you want to achieve and ask yourself: 

“How can I bring about the desired effect in the person I am communicating with…? 

What do I need to say…? 

What style should I adopt…?”

Given below are various effects a communication can produce in the audience, outcomes which you as a speaker can create in a listener, intentionally, or unintentionally, if you are not careful. 

You may intend to sympathize with someone but she may think you are patronizing her. 

You may want to humour someone and land up humiliating or insulting him. 

Unintentional lapses in communication may result in negative outcomes in the audience. 

Conversely you may want to confuse your audience and end up educating them…!

A FEW COMMUNICATION EFFECTS (STIMULUS and RESPONSE)

Inform
Instruct
Impress
Influence
Inspire
Irritate
Insult
Instigate
Inflame
Teach
Guide
Educate
Persuade
Motivate
Convince
Dissuade
Flatter
Humour
Entertain
Romance
Seduce
Patronize
Appease
Console
Cajole
Confuse
Activate
Sympathize
Chastise
Humiliate
Annoy
Disgust
Alienate
Warn
Threaten
Scare

Whether it is public speaking or interpersonal communication, make sure you have a definite intention and clear about the communication effect you want to achieve in the audience before you speak rather than create an unpredictable effect on the listener by default.

And if you do not want to have any effect on a person (or to cause any change in their understanding, beliefs, feelings or behaviour) then it is best to remain silent. 

Why indulge in aimless communication

Why speak if you have nothing to say

This applies to other forms of communication too - like written and non-verbal forms of communication.

Ask yourself, is there a need to communicate if you have no message or information to convey?

And if you do have something to say please make sure you communicate effectively and obtain the desired effect in the recipient of the communication.

Remember: THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK lest your Communication Misfire.


VIKRAM KARVE 
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2011
Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work.
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