I have slowed down in life.
However – sometimes – I find myself in a “hurry”.
So – I need to post my own “self help” article on “Hurry Sickness” – for myself – for me to read and reflect on.
It is easy to “preach” – but – difficult to “practice” what you “preach”.
So – “self styled” Gurus like me need to read my own “preachings” – and ponder over whether I am myself practising what I preach.
Dear Reader – Here is the article on Hurry Sickness...
I WAS A “MAN IN A HURRY”
Once upon a time – I suffered from “Hurry Sickness”
I was a “man in a hurry”.
Then – I slowed down – and – I decided to enjoy the finer aspects of life.
Now – I am no longer a “man in a hurry” – I have become so slow and relaxed – that – sometimes – my “Better Half” feels quite miffed when she has to get me moving.
Do you suffer from “Hurry Sickness”...?
Here are some tips to cure yourself from “Hurry Sickness”
Slow Down – get rid of “Hurry Sickness”.
Remember the saying: “Hurry Burry Spoils the Curry”
HURRY SICKNESS
Hurry Burry Spoils the Curry
Musings of a Retired Navy Veteran
By
VIKRAM KARVE
HURRY SICKNESS – DEFINITION and MEANING
A central element of lifestyle management is the skill to creatively balance achievement and work success with leisure activities, family life and social involvements.
Another critical aspect is the ability to feel comfortable at work and at home and to enjoy the experience of whatever is being done at that moment.
But nowadays, most of us are obsessed with getting results or completing one’s task.
When task completion becomes more important than enjoying the task in hand – and understanding the work or activity one is doing at the given moment – a sure victim of “hurry sickness” is born.
The resultant constant sense of urgency is the trap of hurry sickness.
You rush to “get things done” to the point where it becomes an obsession.
Breaking this syndrome requires that you learn to enjoy experiences for the pleasure they give.
When you gain pleasure from an experience – there is no need to get things done painstakingly.
Enjoy experiences – not rewards – and things will get done automatically without any constant stressful sense of urgency.
Hurry Sickness can be defined from a psychological perspective as follows:
“HURRY SICKNESS – is a pervasive and progressively urgent need to complete task – in order to obtain rewards at completion – without regard for other aspects of the work experience – and by using maladaptive time strategies...”
OBSESSION FOR TASK COMPLETION
They key causal factor in hurry sickness is the progressive need for task completion.
Enjoying what you are doing is neglected with a morbid urge to getting it done as quickly as possible – no matter what the activity.
Enjoying what you are doing is neglected with a morbid urge to getting it done as quickly as possible – no matter what the activity.
The need for task completion extends to non-work involvements as well.
For example – “Hurry Sickness” affects activities like eating, playing, romance, making love, sex, leisure, having fun, loafing, taking a stroll, recreation, leisure, sports, pastimes, hobbies, holidaying, exercising, lazing around, dozing, enjoying music, cooking, gardening, and – even – doing nothing.
Your Hurry Sickness interferes with the enjoyment of these experiences because of the persistent inclination to “hurry up and finish it off.”
Getting things done has become such a strong need – because the payoffs or rewards for completion have assumed primary importance.
Your work experience has taught you that rewards always come at the end of the activity – after you have put forth great effort to achieve a goal.
You do not realize that:
“Happiness” is not a “Destination” – but the manner of Travelling...
Not only do you feel a sense of personal satisfaction from your achievements – but tangible rewards – such as promotion, cash incentives, awards, and advancements are given to you as well.
With time – these rewards have become clearly linked with your self-esteem.
Each time you “succeed” – your ego – your inner self – sends an internal message to you – which says:
“You have done well. You are a commendable person because you succeeded again.”
Your need for this kind of reassurance has become stronger than you would care to admit.
TIME URGENCY
Time-Urgency quickly becomes a strong internal driving force towards task completion.
Your life becomes a frenzy of completing one task after another.
You are obsessed with time – and “wasting” time becomes almost a mortal sin.
You strive to maximize your productivity by using time ever more efficiently – but you also have a sense that you are controlled by time – and you don’t like it.
Time is both your challenge – and your enemy.
A telling sign of hurry sickness is that even while relaxing – you constantly fight the time-urgency that causes you unrest.
Another way to seek to increase your output is to adopt maladaptive time management strategies.
These questionable tactics may help you get more done over the short run – but you pay a heavy emotional price.
“MULTI-TASKING” – A MALADAPTIVE TIME MANAGEMENT STRATEGY
You now do everything faster – you have learned to “multi-task” – or “double up” – to do many things at once – and you are constantly preparing for what is coming next – before you are finished what you are doing now.
The insidious trap is that you get something done quickly – even when there is no reason to get anything done at all.
Because of your emphasis on task completion – you focus on finishing the task – without regard for other aspects of the experience.
In short – you have lost the ability to enjoy yourself while doing anything – because of your incessant drive to get to the finish line.
Because of this change – you have lost the ability to emotionally rejuvenate yourself.
Chronic Fatigue and Pessimism are symptoms of this malady of Hurry Sickness.
SIGNS AND SIGNALS OF HURRY SICKNESS
Here are some behavioural signs and signals that indicate “Hurry Sickness”:
1. Hurried Eating
You now eat in the office while continuing to work – or you just skip meals altogether.
You multitask while eating.
At home – you finish meals well ahead of everyone else – and eat in bigger bites – without savouring and relishing the taste of food.
Sharing pleasantries at the table is minimal – because you cannot sit long enough.
Ask yourself – are you eating mindfully and relishing every morsel of your food...?
Are you totally relaxed and unhurried when you eat...?
2. Hurried Sex
Relaxed and romantic sex and leisurely lovemaking is but a pleasant memory.
The frequency of having sex has reduced.
And – even when you do indulge in sex – it is a quick encounter – no time for foreplay – just a quick premature ejaculation – or – a quick “faked” orgasm – and – you are off to sleep – so that you can finish off your sleep and get up early – to get on with your work and tasks.
Or – you immediately get up after the sexual encounter – and move on to some other “important” or “urgent” activity.
Sex is less spontaneous and more mechanical these days.
Sex is no longer unhurried and relaxed lovemaking.
Like most other activities in your “hurried” life – sex has also become a “hurried” affair.
Yes – for you – Sex is a “hurry-up-and-get-it-done” activity.
The climax and orgasm become more important than the foreplay and lovemaking
Worse – you often indulge in “faking it” – so that you can quickly finish off your lovemaking activity.
You want to get over with and finish off the sexual encounter as fast as possible – in a hurry – so that you can quickly get on with the more “important” and “productive” things in life – your “high priority” activities...!
3. Confused Communications
Your interpersonal communication patterns now focus squarely on the negative.
Feedback to others emphasizes mistakes and failings – and you rarely compliment – or offer sincere support to anyone these days.
You do not take the time any more for pleasant chats with family and colleagues.
You make demands instead of working cooperatively with others or team-building.
You even stop talking to yourself (intrapersonal communication).
And hey – are you on your smartphone most of the time – talking – texting – or – feverishly engaged on the Social Media...?
4. Uneasy Leisure
You put aside less time for relaxation – and you enjoy it less – when you actually try to relax.
“Time-off” is now more of a hassle than it is worth.
When you sit still – you feel uncomfortable and uneasy almost immediately.
You have lost the ability to “do nothing”
It is difficult for you to loosen up – and enjoy an idle hour relaxing – doing nothing.
Leisure makes you uneasy.
Even when you are on a vacation or a holiday – you seem to be always in a “hurry”.
Ask yourself:
“Why do I work...?”
Introspect – reflect and contemplate on this question – and – realization will dawn upon you that:
The primary reason you work is to be able to enjoy your leisure.
Yes – you work to earn money – so that you can enjoy our leisure.
So why aren’t you taking a vacation every day – and learning how to enjoy your leisure with full awareness...?
Of course – if you are lucky – and you learn how to enjoy your work – then your work will seem like leisure.
5. Poor Quality of Family Life
Family members now “report” events to you – but you share little of yourself with them.
You and your spouse argue more than you talk.
The satisfactions of family life have diminished in quality and quantity.
Your impatience is just as strong at home as it is in the office.
In both your work life – and your family life – you display a sense of hurry.
HURRY SICKNESS – CURE AND MITIGATION
(HURRY BURRY SPOILS THE CURRY)
If you are a victim of “hurry sickness” – your initial tendency is to effect and expedite your “cure” in a hurry too.
But – this “hurry-up-and-get-it-done” attitude – this may actually sabotage your recovery.
What is required is patience, perspective and the ability to deal with setbacks in healthier ways.
It is easy to blame “hurry sickness” on the pressures of the job – and what you “have to do to survive” – and on the insensitivity of the complex modern world.
While each of these perceptions has a grain of truth in it – the fact remains – that most of the responsibility for “hurry sickness” lies within you.
Your drive to get ahead is the real root of the problem – and the fact is that – you have lost all sense of perspective.
Until you accept personal responsibility for your present state – you will not be in a position to confront and reverse the real mischief, damage and harm caused by “hurry sickness”.
Remember the well-known story of the hare and the tortoise.
Decelerate your life a bit – slow down – walk leisurely instead of driving – and – do not carry your mobile phone – or at least – switch off your cell-phone where you can.
DO NOT MULTI-TASK
Do one thing at a time – with full awareness and mindfulness – and learn to enjoy the experience of whatever you are doing.
Ask yourself:
Do you believe in multi-tasking...?
Are you a victim of “HURRY SICKNESS”...?
Why don’t you rid yourself of this malady and enhance your “quality of life”...?
Of course you can get rid of Hurry Sickness...!!!
Just stop multitasking
Focus on whatever you are doing at the present moment.
It is very easy – and – it works – you can take my word for it.
So – Dear Reader – just RELAX
Remember:
HURRY BURRY SPOILS THE CURRY
VIKRAM KARVE
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1. This is based on my personal experience. It may or may not work for you. So please exercise due diligence before trying out the tips mentioned in the article.
2. All stories in this blog are a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the stories are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.
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This is a Revised and Updated Version of My Article HURRY SICKNESS written by me Vikram Karve 33 years ago in the year 1987 and and posted online earlier a number of times in my blogs at urls: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2010/11/hurry-burry-spoils-curry.html and http://creative.sulekha.com/hurry-sickness_31046_blog and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2011/08/hurry-sickness-causes-and-cure.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2015/07/time-management-part-1-hurry-sickness.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/06/do-you-suffer-from-hurry-sickness.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.com/2017/07/hurry-burry-spoils-curry.html etc
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