HOW TO CREATE HAPPINESS and HOW TO CREATE UNHAPPINESS

HOW TO CREATE HAPPINESS and HOW TO CREATE UNHAPPINESS

STRENGTH AND WEAKNESS APPROACH 

Do You Know Your Happiness Creators and Unhappiness Creators?

Inspirational Musings

By

VIKRAM KARVE

A few days ago I was feeling a bit “down”

So I decided that I needed to read one of my own self help articles which I had written a few years ago - I think I wrote this 12 years ago for our in-house magazine, in the year 2001, and, of course, I this article on my blogs from time to time.

Here is the article, updated and abridged, for you to read.

 

HOW TO CREATE HAPPINESS and HOW TO CREATE UNHAPPINESS

I first learnt about Swami Vivekananda, sometime in the 1960’s, when I was a small boy and my father had taken us to visit Belur Math near Kolkata. 

At Belur Math I acquired a tiny pocket book called “Thus Spake Vivekananda”.

Whenever the chips were down, or I felt dejected, I referred to the inspiring gems of wisdom, distilled from the complete works of Swami Vivekanada, for instant motivation and strength.

AN INSPIRATIONAL GEM FROM SWAMI VIVEKANANDA

Here is an inspirational gem of wisdom, a phrase from the sayings of Swami Vivekananda:

 

Anything that makes you weak physically, intellectually, and spiritually, reject as poison

 

I feel that the word “weak” is all encompassing.

The term “weak” embraces anything that creates in you a stressful situation.

This includes all negative emotions and feelings like anger, irritation, fury, worry, anxiety, frustration, despondency, depression, demoralization and, most importantly, unhappiness.

These negative emotions disturb your inner tranquility and equanimity, drains you emotionally and intellectually, and make you feel “weak” just like physical weakness.

Oh yes, unhappiness is Weakness, unhappiness is Poison 

 

IDENTIFY YOUR UNHAPPINESS CREATORS

Now sit down in a quiet tranquil place, close your eyes, introspect, and try to think of all the things that make you feel negative,

Reflect and introspect on all your unhappiness-creators and unhappy situations.

UNHAPPINESS CREATORS

These unhappiness creators can be anything, tangible and intangible, things, activities and persons, and include:

Toxic and incompatible persons, who irritate, annoy and hassle you

 

Foods and beverages (like Alcohol) which don’t suit you and are physically detrimental to your health and well-being

 

Activities, social and personal, which may appear pleasurable, but which actually drain you out

 

Technology and Gadgets, like your cell-phone, which disturb your peace of mind

Strained Relationships, which are a source of unhappiness and cause stress in you

Any activity or thing that causes a guilty conscience in you

Disagreeable persons and unpleasant activities which are a stimulus for negative emotions like anger, worry, fear, etc and create negative vibes within you

Close your eyes, introspect and think about all aspects of your life - your work life, your home life, your social life.

Think about all the persons, activities and things that generate negative vibes, create stress and unhappiness in you, things that make you feel “weak”. 

Then, follow Swami Vivekananda's advice: 

Anything that makes you weak physically, intellectually, and spiritually, reject as poison 

Yes, you can do it in actual life.

Just “reject” all these “poisonous” things and people by avoiding them as far as possible.

Make an exhaustive list of all your “unhappiness creators” - all the things and people that make you “weak” - and try to reject them as “poison”.  

 

At first you may be a bit skeptical about this approach.

But when you start implementing, you’ll be surprised how much of it is in your own control to prevent unhappiness.

SAY NO TO UNHAPPINESS CREATORS and WELCOME HAPPINESS CREATORS
While, on the one hand:

1. You reject the things that make you “weak” and unhappy

simultaneously, on the other hand:

2. You must reinforce the things that make you feel “strong” and happy

Say NO to unhappiness creators but say YES to happiness creators.  

Yes, if unhappiness is “weakness”, happiness is “strength”.

 

So simultaneously, reflect and contemplate.

Make a list of things and persons that give you strength and joy and make you happy and productive.

Include all the things and people that create positive feelings in you.

Then try to devote as much time and energy to doing these positive things and interacting with these morale boosting people that give you strength and make you feel good and happy.  

MANTRA FOR HAPPINESS (and UNHAPPINESS) - IN A NUTSHELL

 

To put it in a nutshell, if you want to be happy:

1. Try your best to generate happiness vibes by doing things which make you “strong” and happy 

2. Try to reduce or even eliminate negative unhappiness vibes by “rejecting” things which make you “weak” and unhappy. 

(And if you want to be unhappy, just do the opposite - keep wallowing in negative vibes by encouraging your unhappiness creators and avoiding your happiness creators).

HOW TO CREATE HAPPINESS and HOW TO CREATE UNHAPPINESS

Whenever I feel unhappy, I realize that it is because I have allowed myself to be overwhelmed by my unhappiness creators.

And the moment I envelop myself with my happiness creators, I start feeling happy.

Remember this saying of Swami Vivekananda:

Anything that makes you “weak” physically, intellectually, and spiritually, reject as poison 

(Conversely, I say: Anything that makes you feel “strong”, imbibe as nectar)

Implementing this inspiring gem of wisdom from Swami Vivekananda is breathtaking in its simplicity. 

Try it - experiment - discover your happiness creators and unhappiness creators.

Start making your two lists and then you know what to do.

This works for me and I am sure it will work for you. I do feel unhappy at times, but I know why - and I know what to do.

Wish you a stress-free life filled with happiness.

VIKRAM KARVE

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