How to Enjoy a Dual Life – Online and Offline

SOCIAL NETWORKING – ONLINE and OFFLINE RELATIONSHIPS

HOW TO LIVE A DUAL LIFE AND ENJOY THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS

By

VIKRAM KARVE

Thanks to the advent of the internet and advances in technology – you have an opportunity to live in two worlds:

1. The Real World

 and

2. The Virtual World 

You can also have two identities:

1. Your online identity in cyberspace

and

2. Your physical real-world offline identity in real space 

You can live a dual life by maintaining two lives – one in real space and one in cyberspace.

1. ONLINE LIFE (in cyberspace)

and

2. OFFLINE or REAL WORLD LIFE

You can have two kinds of relationships:

1. Virtual Relationships

and 

2. Real Relationships 

You can have two kinds of FRIENDS and friendship:

1. Offline Real flesh-and-blood Friends

and 

2. Online Virtual Friends

 

Internet is a great tool for social networking. 

Internet enables us to live two lives and enjoy the benefits of instant interaction and friendships across the globe and facilitates us to enjoy the best of both worlds.

 

It is good to have the “best of both worlds” – the real and the virtual – as long as you maintain a balance. 

Yes – like you try to have “work life balance” – you also must have a “real-world versus virtual-world” balance in order to enjoy the best of both worlds.

How do you do this...?

Well – here is one of my favourite Mulla Nasrudin stories which exemplifies this aspect:

WHEN A HORRIBLE WOMAN STARTS LOOKING BEAUTIFUL

A Mulla Nasrudin Story

Retold By

VIKRAM KARVE

Mulla Nasrudin bought a beautiful house at a picturesque place far away from civilization high up in the hills. 

From time to time – Mulla Nasrudin would suddenly pack his bags – he would leave the city – and – he would go away to his house in the hills.

He would disappear for days – sometimes for weeks – sometimes for months.

And – just as suddenly as he used to disappear – he used to suddenly unpredictably return back to the city without any warning or notice. 

When asked the reason for his erratic and whimsical behaviour – Mulla Nasrudin explained:   

“I have kept a caretaker woman up there in the hills to look after my house. 

She is the ugliest woman - horrible, repulsive, hideous, and nauseating. 

Just one look at her – and you will feel like vomiting.  

When I go to live there – at first she looks horrible. 

But slowly, slowly – after a few lonely days – she is not so horrible. 

Then after some more desolate forlorn days – she does not look all that ugly – and she does not seem so undesirable. 

And – as more and more time passes in lonesome seclusion – a day comes when I start seeing some beauty in her. 

After I spend some more time in that lonely desolate place – far away from civilization – a day suddenly comes – when I start finding beauty in that ugly woman.

She starts looking desirable and I start getting attracted towards her.

The moment I start finding that horrid woman desirable – I know that it is time for me to escape from my virtual world in the hills.

The day I start feeling attracted to the hideous woman means enough is enough.

I have lived away from the real world for too long.

Now – even this horrible revolting woman has started looking beautiful. 

I may even fall in love with this ghastly ugly repugnant woman – and that may be very dangerous for me. 

Enough is Enough.

Enough of the virtual world.

It is time to get back to the real world. 

So I pack up my things and rush back to the city...” 

MORAL OF THE STORY

Dear Reader: 

 

Has your Virtual World, your cyber space, your online life, started looking a bit too “beautiful”…?  

 

Are you spending more time in cyberspace, social networking and interacting with your “virtual friends” rather than having face-to-face interactions and communication with your immediate “flesh and blood friends” in real space...?

 

Is there an imbalance between your online life and offline life...? 

Are your virtual relationships overwhelming your life...?

Are your online relationships taking precedence over your real life offline relationships...? 

Is your online identity becoming more important to you than your offline identity...?

 

Are you losing touch with reality...?

 

Maybe – it is time for you to return back to the Real World. 

 

Of course – when you get saturated and bored spending too much time in the real world – and you start feeling suffocated with relationships in the Real World – you can always go back to the virtual world – which is like your alter ego.

Like Mulla Nasrudin – you can – and you must – enjoy the best of both worlds.

You can alternate and switch over between both your lives – online and offline – just like Mulla Nasrudin does between the city and the hill-station...!!! 

 

Social Networking gives you a lot of pleasure and satisfaction – and internet a great tool for building relationships. 

In fact – after my retirement – I have more online friends than offline real world friends.

Online Social Networking is a boon for people who are lonely in the real world.

It is good to have two identities and live a dual life – offline and online – and enjoy the best of both worlds – the real world and the virtual world – as long as you maintain a balance between your two lives – one in real-space – and the other in cyber-space.

Like in the “inspirational” story I narrated above – in case you are spending most of your time online in the virtual world – it is good to come back to the ground reality of the real world from time to time. 

VIKRAM KARVE

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2. This story and all stories in this blog are a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the story/stories are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

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This article is based on my lectures (33 years ago) and has been posted online by me earlier on many occasions - including at urls: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2011/02/social-networking-best-of-both-worlds.html  and  http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2010/08/virtual-world-and-real-world.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2015/06/social-networking-online-and-offline.html  and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/12/how-to-enjoy-relationships-online-and.html  etc 

Are you aware of your Digital Footprint, Web Identity and Online Reputation...?

ONLINE REPUTATION MANAGEMENT (ORM) MADE SIMPLE 

Are you aware of your Digital Footprint, Web Identity and Online Reputation...?

Sometime ago – I had an interesting discussion with a fellow writer/author turned Blogger at a Bloggers Meet. 

He asked me: “Is it important to be active on the internet – especially on the social media...?” 

“Yes...” I said, “because if you don’t take charge of your online reputation – then someone else will...” 

My friend wanted me to explain in detail.  

Since we were talking on our mobile cellphones – I told him that I had written on this topic around 4 years ago in the year 2013 – and – I shall update that article and post it on my blog for him and other interested readers to read.

So – here is the updated article...

DIGITAL FOOTPRINT, WEB IDENTITY AND ONLINE REPUTATION

Is Your “Online Reputation” Overshadowing Your “Offline Reputation”...?

Tips for Managing Your Web Identity

By

VIKRAM KARVE

DIGITAL FOOTPRINT

Soon – a time will come – when Your Digital Footprint will carry more weight than what you write on your Resume or CV.

I am sure you know the meaning of the term “DIGITAL FOOTPRINT”.

Your digital footprint is the record or trail left by all the things you do online on the internet.

Your Digital Footprint includes all your Social Media activity (on Social Networking Sites like Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Quora, WhatsApp, Instagram, Snapchat etc) – your Blogging and Online Writing – all information about you on the internet – on various websites – your browsing history – your online subscriptions – any photo galleries and videos you have uploaded or others have uploaded about you – essentially, anything on the Internet with your name on it.

Anything you post, tweet, comment, or “like” on a blog/social media – or what others post about you – is going down as a permanent record in cyberspace on your digital footprint.

In a nutshell – your digital footprint is everything on the internet that is about you.

Since you rarely think twice about putting things online – your digital footprint can be pretty large and extensive without you even realizing it.

Have you ever “Googled” yourself...?

An easy way to check out your digital footprint is to “Google” your own name – and you will be amazed when you see number of hits and the extensive and diverse information about you on the internet.

ONLINE REPUTATION

In today’s world you have Two Reputations:

1. OFFLINE REPUTATION (in the physical real world)

2. ONLINE REPUTATION (in the virtual world or cyberspace)

Unless you are a celebrity – your “offline reputation” is restricted and known to only those persons in your proximity, at work, in your social circles and personal life.

However – your “online reputation” is all pervasive – and is available for scrutiny by anyone throughout the world who has access to the internet.

If I want to know about you – all I have to do is to “google” your name or search your details on websites, search engines or social networks.

Potential employers – or prospective spouses – or those desirous of getting into a relationship with you – can easily carry out a basic background check on you by just surfing the internet.

(Earlier – before the advent of the internet – you had to ask some mutual acquaintance – or make discreet inquiries – or hire a detective to find out information about somebody)

The fact of the matter is that – in today’s connected world – your “online reputation” is easily accessible – and it matters more than your “offline reputation”.

In the same way that your “personality” (real-world offline identity) is important for your “offline reputation” – your “online identity” plays an important role in determining your “online reputation”.

ONLINE IDENTITY

Your ONLINE IDENTITY consists of two things:

1. What you say about yourself on the internet (your “Owned Identity”)

2. What others say about you on the internet (your “Earned Identity”)

OWNED IDENTITY

Your OWNED IDENTITY comprises whatever information you upload on the internet.

Your owned identity will comprise so many things like:

1. Whatever you upload on social networking sites like Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, Quora, WhatsApp, Snapchat etc including your profiles, pictures, photos, status reports, tweets, comments – anything and everything you upload about yourself.

2. Your Blogs

3. Your Websites (personal, professional and company)

4. All your writings and postings on the web which you post on the internet on various websites, online journals and e-magazines, forums, networks, groups, emails, documents, presentations – anything and everything you put on the internet.

5. Various “profiles” and “avatars” you create on the web – like, for example, your profiles on job search sites and matrimonial sites.

To put it metaphorically – your owned identity is like when you get yourself inked with a permanent tattoo – it can never be fully erased.

EARNED IDENTITY

Your EARNED IDENTITY is what others “say” about you on the internet.

Your earned identity includes:

1. Information about you on Social Networking Sites like postings about you on Facebook by your friends (status, tags, pictures, photos, comments), recommendations and endorsements on LinkedIn, Retweets/Mentions of your Tweets by others on Twitter etc

2. Articles, Blog Posts, Wikis, Biographical Writings etc written about you which are available on the internet (these are things written about you by others – what you write about yourself on the internet becomes a part of your owned identity)

3. Various “profiles” created by others about you at various places on the web.

4. Various networks and websites that link to you

5. Miscellaneous information about you available on the internet – for example, your examination results uploaded online by your university, education board, UPSC etc or results of job selection interviews promulgated online.

To use a metaphor – your “Earned Identity” is like “Branding” an animal – where a permanent mark is stamped on you by someone else.

YOUR ONLINE REPUTATION IS A COMBINATION OF BOTH YOUR “ONLINE IDENTITIES”:

1. YOUR OWNED IDENTITY (in Your Control) 

and

2. YOUR EARNED IDENTITY (Not in Your Control)

Your “owned identity” is in your control.

You must be circumspect about what you upload on the internet.

Even a small slip-up online – like an injudicious piece of writing on your blog – an indiscreet photo, an imprudent relationship status update or a stray remark on social networks – or a careless comment – has the potential of damaging your reputation in future – and may cause you harm in your offline life.

Your “earned identity” is not in your control.

Sometimes – your “earned identity” matters more than your “owned identity”.

This is because people may be curious to find out what others have to say about you – than what you say about yourself.

Even if you avoid the internet altogether – you cannot avoid having an “earned identity”.

This is because someone else may upload some writing or material about you on the web – especially if you are a celebrity – or remain in the news for something or the other.

That is why famous people – like ancient philosophers, politicians and writers – who lived much before the advent of internet – have “earned identities” – and consequently they have “online reputations”.

So remember – going offline and avoiding the internet is not the solution – it is similar to a pigeon closing its eyes to avoid seeing danger – or an “ostrich burying his head in the sand” approach.

In today’s information technology driven connected world – you cannot afford to bury your head in the sand like an ostrich – and live in denial.

You cannot avoid an online reputation.

Whether you like it or not – whether you use internet or not – you will have an online reputation.

So – it is in your interest to be aware of your digital footprint, web identity and online reputation – and try your best to manage these to your advantage.

MANAGING YOUR DIGITAL FOOTPRINT, WEB IDENTITY AND ONLINE REPUTATION

Do a simple experiment.

Just “Google” your name and see the results of the search.

What are the top few results?

How many “hits” pertain to your “owned reputation”...?

How many “hits” pertain to your “earned reputation”... ?

Which “hits” appear on top and on the first page...?

If you want to manage your online reputation – you must ensure that links pertaining to “owned reputation” (what you say about yourself) appear as the top search results – as compared to “earned reputation” (what others say about you).

As far as your online reputation is concerned – what “you say about yourself” (owned reputation) – must have more prominence – than what “others say about you” (earned reputation).

Remember that your “owned identity” and “owned reputation” are in your control – because you can always control what you want to “say” about yourself on the internet.

But – your “earned identity” and “earned reputation” may not be in your full control – since you cannot control what others “say” about you on the internet.

Therefore – in a nutshell – if you want to control your online reputation – you will have to “say” more about yourself on the internet – than others “say” about you.

How do you do this...?

It is simple.

Get active on the internet – Blog regularly – Tweet vigorously – and maintain a dynamic presence on social networking sites like Facebook, LinkedIn, Google+, Quora, Instagram etc and on various Forums and Groups – and make sure you network effectively.

You must be conscious of your “online reputation”.

With the proliferation of the internet – your “online reputation” will overshadow your “offline reputation”.

Remember – if someone wants to do a background check on you, for whatever reason – to hire you for a job – to check you out as a marriage prospect – or they just want to find out more about you – all they have to do is to “google” your name.

Then – they can ingeniously delve a bit – and explore your online identity (web shadow) – and discover your online reputation – yes – all that will matter is your online reputation.

Therefore – it is imperative that you establish an effective web presence – and be proactively conscious of your digital footprint, web identity and online reputation.

You must be careful to build a good online reputation.

Once you do that – you must make constant efforts to monitor your digital footprint – and – manage your online reputation meticulously

VIKRAM KARVE

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These are my personal views. I am not an IT Professional or SEO Expert. I am a simple internet user, a Blogger and user of Social Networks. These tips are based on my personal experience. They may or may not work for you, so please do your own due diligence while using the internet.

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Revised and Updated Version of My Article First Posted by me Vikram Karve at 9/13/2013 05:58:00 PM (13 Sep 2013) under the title:ONLINE REPUTATION MANAGEMENT Tips for Building and Managing Your Web Identity By VIKRAM KARVE on this blog at url: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/09/online-reputation-management.html  and later revised and posted online by me a number of times including at urls:   http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2014/09/digital-footprint-and-online-reputation.html  and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2015/11/is-your-online-reputation-overshadowing.html  and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/03/digital-identity-how-to-manage-your.html  and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/08/online-reputation-management-made-simple.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/12/how-to-manage-your-online-reputation.html  etc