FEEL GOOD FACTOR
How to Feel Good
By
VIKRAM KARVE
Some things are under our control, others are not.
Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle:
Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle:
Some things are within our control, and some things are not. It is only after you have faced up to this fundamental rule and learned to distinguish between what you can control and what you cannot control that inner tranquility and outer effectiveness become possible .
…Epictetus
Thoughts play a very important role in your life, whereas your feelings can make or break you and also affect the lives of others around you.
We often let our attitudes or feelings hold sway over our lives, rather than let ourthoughts govern our lives.
You let your feelings drive your thoughts, not realizing that thoughts drive actions, and actions produce results, and results in turn produce more feelings, causing a vicious circle which may ultimately lead to loss of self-control.
Feelings are not totally controllable, as many times feelings are produced by external circumstances beyond your control, and if negative feelings are allowed to drive your thoughts and actions, then undesirable results may emanate.
These undesirable results in turn produce further not-so-good feelings, and the vicious cycle continues.
This is true for any unpleasant or negative feelings, like anger, envy, worry, disgust or hatred, which tend to drive our thoughts and actions, and quickly take charge of our lives.
An analysis of other options indicates that both actions and results are not suitable alternative drivers since they also are not totally controllable and will not always be pleasing.
The best solution is to establish ‘thought’ as the driver is because it is controllable and we can get good results. Yes, your thoughts are in your control because you can choose what to want to think about.
Moreover there is a matter of choice.
It is very much in our control to think good and interesting thoughts.
The happiest person is he or she who thinks the most interesting and good thoughts.
The happiest person is he or she who thinks the most interesting and good thoughts.
The human mind cannot totally prevent poor quality thoughts from arising, but it can choose whether or not to dwell on them.
The mind moves from dwelling on poor quality thoughts by selecting alternative beneficial or pleasant thoughts to focus on.
Choosing to be driven by thoughts and then controlling those thoughts allows the best possible results.
Positive thoughts lead to good performance (the right actions), which yields desirable results, which in turn produces good feelings.
Good feelings are conducive to better thoughts and progressively this positively re-enforcing cycle facilitates a high degree of self-control and an overall feeling of happiness.
When good thoughts are combined with good potential the results can be remarkable.
Thus, the very basis of self-control is refusing to allow our feelings to control our responses and dwelling instead on good, pleasant, joy-producing positive thoughts.
Develop and apply your skill to control your thoughts. Certain NLP techniques like Swish Pattern are highly effective in achieving this.
Achieving Positive Thinking by gaining mastery over controlling our thoughts and letting our thoughts govern our lives. Good Thoughts will make you Feel Good and these positive feelings will make you perform Good Actions which will produce Good Results - that is the key to a happy and healthy life.
Dear Reader, remember:
LET THOUGHTS DRIVE YOUR FEELINGS - NEVER ALLOW YOUR FEELINGS TO DRIVE YOUR THOUGHTS
THAT IS THE KEY TO A HAPPY AND HEALTHY LIFE
And it is easy, because thinking interesting thoughts is within your control and not dependent on outside circumstances.
VIKRAM KARVE
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2012
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About Vikram Karve
A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer. Educated at IIT Delhi, ITBHU Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories, creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional research papers in journals and edited in-house journals for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for almost 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing. Vikram lives in Pune India with his family and muse - his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.
Vikram Karve Academic and Creative Writing Journal: http://karvediat.blogspot.com
Professional Profile Vikram Karve: http://www.linkedin.com/in/karve
Vikram Karve Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/vikramkarve
Vikram Karve Creative Writing Blog: http://vikramkarve.sulekha.com/blog/posts.htm
Email: vikramkarve@sify.com
vikramkarve@gmail.com
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