tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post4280211864322059490..comments2024-03-27T20:32:32.879+05:30Comments on Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: THE MARRIAGE COUNSELLOR WHO SAVED MY MARRIAGEVikram Waman Karvehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-25676389335046412822022-03-14T16:43:43.996+05:302022-03-14T16:43:43.996+05:30Couples Counselling and Therapy – Marriage Coachin...<br />Couples Counselling and Therapy – Marriage Coaching<br />Counselling and therapy are two of the most popular ways to work on a relationship.<br />providing a comfortable space for individuals and couples to discuss our issues<br />and find a solution to their relationship.<br /><a href="https://thehappiestlives.com/" rel="nofollow">Couples Counselling and Therapy</a><br /> sanssa stockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16741086232410847092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-78917789728643149782022-03-09T14:15:35.822+05:302022-03-09T14:15:35.822+05:30“If one or both partners have extramarital affairs...“If one or both partners have extramarital affairs that haven’t ended, or serious psychological or psychiatric problems,<br />it’s virtually impossible to do effective marital therapy,” says Cohan. <br />In that case, individual therapy may be recommended before any couples sessions are booked.<br /><a href="https://thehappiestlives.com/" rel="nofollow">licensed marriage and family therapist</a><br />What Happens in a Marriage Counseling Session?<br />During a marriage counseling session, couples work with their therapist to identify and address the problems<br />that need to be acknowledged and resolved. <a href="https://thehappiestlives.com/" rel="nofollow">marriage therapist near me</a><br />Learning more effective ways to communicate with each other<br />Learning how to be vulnerable and truthful with each other<br />Learning how to control their anger and responses when they feel emotionally charged<br />Discovering why they choose to be married and their shared purpose in the marriage<br />Reviving romance <a href="https://thehappiestlives.com/" rel="nofollow"> Relationship therapist near you</a>Thehappiest livesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-22390138130519021122022-02-09T20:54:23.294+05:302022-02-09T20:54:23.294+05:30Appreciable and informative. 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He helps you by providing the best <b><a href="https://drnazempoor.com/" rel="nofollow">marital and couple therapy</a></b> in Texas, USA.Dr. Nazempoorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09571940938356234862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-33516901417363187582013-09-07T18:45:22.804+05:302013-09-07T18:45:22.804+05:30Husbands really need to be careful of other woman ...Husbands really need to be careful of other woman outside their marriage,this was a true life story that happened to me to my own notice my sister took my husband from me the Husband whom i have love so much and promise me that no woman will take him from me but all of a sudden things turned apart if not for my friend hear in USA that told me i needed a spell caster that can cast a spell to separate them maybe by now he must have went for a divorce which could have made me commit suicide because i loved him so much likewise like him also but how things turn around was a thing that surprised me.<br />I vowed that any thing it could cost me i must separate him and my elder sister i then collected the contact of this spell caster from my friend Mary she told me his name is spiritual Priest Ajigar and his email is priestajigarspells@live.com i contacted him and narrated the whole story to him he consulted and found out that my sister visited a spell caster that casted a spell that made him love her i then ask him what to do he told me that this spell needed to be broken so that my husband can leave her alone and come back to me the spell was broken and within three days he began to hate her that he even beat her up before he said to her that it is over between him and her right now my husband is with me again and take good care of me like he have never done before i thank my friend Mary but i own all thanks to priest Ajigar for bringing back my husband and i therefore for advice that if you notice any strange behavior in your marriage or your boy friend or girlfriend is cheating you contact Priest Ajigar to know the root of it he will surely help you out and give an everlasting solution to it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-26468512055907580012013-09-07T18:44:38.845+05:302013-09-07T18:44:38.845+05:30Husbands really need to be careful of other woman ...Husbands really need to be careful of other woman outside their marriage,this was a true life story that happened to me to my own notice my sister took my husband from me the Husband whom i have love so much and promise me that no woman will take him from me but all of a sudden things turned apart if not for my friend hear in USA that told me i needed a spell caster that can cast a spell to separate them maybe by now he must have went for a divorce which could have made me commit suicide because i loved him so much likewise like him also but how things turn around was a thing that surprised me.<br />I vowed that any thing it could cost me i must separate him and my elder sister i then collected the contact of this spell caster from my friend Mary she told me his name is spiritual Priest Ajigar and his email is priestajigarspells@live.com i contacted him and narrated the whole story to him he consulted and found out that my sister visited a spell caster that casted a spell that made him love her i then ask him what to do he told me that this spell needed to be broken so that my husband can leave her alone and come back to me the spell was broken and within three days he began to hate her that he even beat her up before he said to her that it is over between him and her right now my husband is with me again and take good care of me like he have never done before i thank my friend Mary but i own all thanks to priest Ajigar for bringing back my husband and i therefore for advice that if you notice any strange behavior in your marriage or your boy friend or girlfriend is cheating you contact Priest Ajigar to know the root of it he will surely help you out and give an everlasting solution to it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-91352718146733045662013-05-02T10:34:06.317+05:302013-05-02T10:34:06.317+05:30I do understand the comments of those who say &quo...I do understand the comments of those who say "it's easier to treat others, but tough to treat ourselves". To treat someone else, you have an unbiased, external view from where you can look at that person's problems and understand and accept them. Your own problems - I wonder if there's any human being who will accept all his/her problems completely. If such a human being exists, I don't think he/she will have any difficulty in life. He/She would accept all problems, work on it, solve it or just decide to leave it if it's not 'solvable' - and would have a nice life.Sandeepnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-19531664060612901322013-03-04T10:48:02.673+05:302013-03-04T10:48:02.673+05:30Dear Suman,
Thank you so much for your insightful ...Dear Suman,<br />Thank you so much for your insightful comment.<br />I liked your last part the best: "The Hand that gives the flower retains some of the fragrance". <br />I think that says it all.<br />Well, I had just written a tongue-in-cheek fiction short story and I must say that I feel enlightened by all the comments and feedback received from all my dear readers, and this has changed my views about counselling and therapy too.<br />Your comment is an eye opener for me too.<br />Thank you once again for sharing your experience and views which have added value to my blog and will benefit so many readers.<br />All the Best.<br />Regards<br />VikramVikram Waman Karvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-1908207988504399412013-03-03T12:28:56.197+05:302013-03-03T12:28:56.197+05:30I am a gynaecologist and have been through psychot...I am a gynaecologist and have been through psychotherapy (counselling) for relationship and emotional issues for more than 2 years. I have found it to be the most gratifying experience of my life. I had two different counsellors, so it is not just the person that mattered. How I found counselling beneficial was:<br />1. Someone who is all ears and cares for you (even if paid to do so). That itself is healing.<br />2. Good counselors never judge you. You feel so safe and can be yourself completely. A novel feeling.<br />3. Counselors ask relevant questions and give minimal inputs to set YOU thinking and give YOU insight and direction. They NEVER impose their ideas and values on to you. Just encourage you to understand your own motivations and find your happiness.<br /><br />After I was "cured" (meaning, I didn't feel the need for support), I still maintain touch with my counselor. Each visit gives better self-awareness and adds to my growth. <br /><br />Counseling works for people who have insight into their own weaknesses and are motivated to improve (personal responsibility). It would certainly not work for those who blame other people or circumstances. <br />I believe counseling helps the counselor. Obviously. The hand that gives the flower retains some of the fragrance. I am happy if my therapists have gained from treating me. Am very happy for them!Suman Bijlaninoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-27266308089554294142013-02-04T14:27:17.567+05:302013-02-04T14:27:17.567+05:30@ Darsha - Well this is just a fiction story. I ag...@ Darsha - Well this is just a fiction story. I agree with you on the point that it is sometimes difficult to solve a problem if you are a part of the same problem. And it is here that someone who can see things dispassionately like a counsellor can help you.<br />Thanks for your insightful views and comments<br />Regards<br />VikramVikram Waman Karvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-84386646874463278092013-02-03T20:02:44.248+05:302013-02-03T20:02:44.248+05:30Dear Vikram,
I read your article...and i felt you ...Dear Vikram,<br />I read your article...and i felt you seeing it from one angel only. I myself am a psychotherapist and alternative therapist. I help others heal themselves. but, that doesn't necessarily mean that I can solve all my problems. In some issues I also require help because:<br />a) When I am solving my own problems...I am emotionally involved in that problem...my mind can be muddled up and for me to take the right decision to solve my problems and clear the clouds I might require a 3rd persons help ...and no1 better than a counsellor as that person can be neutral to the both the parties.<br />b) Sometimes the right direction can be to separate and a counsellor who understands human emotions and herself/himself knows that if a particular marriage means life long unhappiness than it is better to separate.So, it isn't fair to judge a counsellor - just because you feel that she was not able to save her marriage. It could be the counsellor saved both herself and her ex - husband by separating. (I very well understand that it is a fictional story but, the readers might get discouraged to go to a marriage counsellor by reading it...thus, losing their chance of any recounciliation).<br />c) Just because a counsellor is helping other people to the best of his/her abillity that doesn't mean he/she isn't human. <br /><br />Just my thoughts...on your article..that it is too one - sided and negatively placed.<br /><br />LOVE!LIGHT!LAUGHTER!<br />Darsha Gandhi Mehta <br />fillingupthedash-esoflife.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05151152153934837811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-18921113376280300322013-01-08T12:40:51.982+05:302013-01-08T12:40:51.982+05:30Dear "Anonymous":
I wish you would have ...Dear "Anonymous":<br />I wish you would have commented under your name so that I could respond to you properly and we could discuss our viewpoints interactively.<br />Just two points:<br />1. The story is fiction<br />2. I am not a doctor or psychologist and I agree with you that I may be professionally ignorant on these matters. I was just articulating my personal views based on my observations, that's<br />all.<br />With respect to your observation, I feel there is a difference between diabetes and problems like marital discord and alcoholism.<br />I shall be grateful if you could please tell us how a person who cannot cure himself of alcoholism can cure others of alcoholism.<br />I wish you could write a blog on these subjects for the benefit of all.<br />Thank you for your views.<br />Regards<br />VikramVikram Waman Karvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-16399243177867506822013-01-07T19:14:42.707+05:302013-01-07T19:14:42.707+05:30Vikram Karve, your comments about 'charity beg...Vikram Karve, your comments about 'charity begins at home' about the counsellor whose husband was alcoholic are sadly both childish and unprofessional. We doctors face this dilemma on a regular basis and often are amused when someone says, "doctor saab, how come you have got diabetes yourself when you are a doctor?". I just laugh and leave it there, in most cases, on account of their ignorance. But didn't expect this level of ignorance from somebody studied at IIT. Pathetic. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-51025279569840181872011-09-02T10:13:16.957+05:302011-09-02T10:13:16.957+05:30@ SK Jain - Yes Sir, you are absolutely right: cha...@ SK Jain - Yes Sir, you are absolutely right: charity begins at home. I also agree with your observation about "successful" people having bad family lives and wonder why.Vikram Waman Karvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-24814926491741374872011-09-02T05:07:01.167+05:302011-09-02T05:07:01.167+05:30Charity begins @ home. Good to hear, difficult to ...Charity begins @ home. Good to hear, difficult to practice. major successful people have battered family life. why?orixintlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12103608971352856140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-51155963085213202582011-09-02T05:05:03.252+05:302011-09-02T05:05:03.252+05:30Charity Begins @ home. True but difficult to follo...Charity Begins @ home. True but difficult to follow. Most successful people have bad family relations- why? Ego, total control on mind/action of one over other, not giving space to other are some of the reasons. Allowing each other ability to excel can create magic in family, alas only few understand it and even less practice it. SK Jain, IIT kanpur 66 batch, CEO Orix International Delhi http://orixintl.en.ecplaza.netorixintlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12103608971352856140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-60407508883028090452011-08-24T22:09:06.048+05:302011-08-24T22:09:06.048+05:30@ Purba - You are absolutely right that we have di...@ Purba - You are absolutely right that we have different yardsticks for others and for your own self. I knew a feminist type marriage counselor who used to advise women not to accept any abuse or cruelty from their husbands under any circumstances but when it came to her own daughter who faced a similar situation the counselor sang a different tune and asked her daughter to compromise to save her marriage.Vikram Waman Karvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-83705325762307853332011-08-24T14:11:18.051+05:302011-08-24T14:11:18.051+05:30We always have a clearer perspective when it comes...We always have a clearer perspective when it comes to dispensing advice to others. But when it comes to us, we are muddled up. Ironic.Purbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06345755953291104000noreply@blogger.com