tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post1173077058313669879..comments2024-03-27T20:32:32.879+05:30Comments on Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: WHY PARENTS WANT SONS, NOT DAUGHTERS - GIRL CHILD - PARKI THAPAN - PARAYA DHAN - Dikri To Parki Thapan KahevayVikram Waman Karvehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-55108414297497182122020-05-01T11:24:24.457+05:302020-05-01T11:24:24.457+05:30Dikri Parki Thapan or Paraya Dhan because we still...Dikri Parki Thapan or Paraya Dhan because we still belive in KANYADAN and VIDDAI... Kanyadaan is not the root of all evil but it does express the ownership of a person.It represents the giving away of a daughter...not just physically ,but in many other ways. The in laws/husbands assume the life of the new bride belongs to them. She is expected to break/lesson her ties with home and is pressurized to make stronger ties with husband's family...by any and every means. The very fact that most dils in this country have to take permission to visit the family of birth speaks a lot. The fact that the dils most times have very little say in deciding the amount of time they get to spend with parents without seriously effecting her marriage.The fact that the guys parents have some kind of right over the grand children....all that is what Kanyadaan/Parayadhan symbolizes.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02883822074424342702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-11667188006318964212013-03-13T11:44:04.321+05:302013-03-13T11:44:04.321+05:30You have got a point there LoveKar Brand - let the...You have got a point there LoveKar Brand - let the kids fly off and forget about themVikram Waman Karvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-27679884946993758892013-03-13T03:29:52.487+05:302013-03-13T03:29:52.487+05:30Vikranbhai "It is best to let the kids fly of...Vikranbhai "It is best to let the kids fly off and expect nothing from them." Thats the reason people here in west have learned to live with pets and they do not even care of having kids, some even consider kids burden ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07204907262935719584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-58964628845423152582013-03-13T03:28:08.839+05:302013-03-13T03:28:08.839+05:30It is if they do not make it theirs (I mean the ki...It is if they do not make it theirs (I mean the kids).... That's the reason in most western countries people are not even eager having any kids. Why plant trees if you are sure they will not be fruitful ever?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07204907262935719584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-80965585849644585372012-11-27T11:32:02.292+05:302012-11-27T11:32:02.292+05:30Hi LoveKar:
Absolutely agree with you - "Dike...Hi LoveKar:<br />Absolutely agree with you - "Dikeri pun parki thapan nathi ke dikro pun nahi"<br />It is best to let the kids fly off and expect nothing from them. <br />Old Age is your own responsibility.Vikram Waman Karvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-49592631692590968062012-11-27T03:17:32.526+05:302012-11-27T03:17:32.526+05:30The solution to this is to kick the kids out of ho...The solution to this is to kick the kids out of home when they are 18 and parents save for yourself. All my older neighbors have done the same in USA, and they both are living so happily. Even the kids are very happy on their own, they learn to earn in early age. This is the only way everyone can be HAPPY. Dikeri pun parki thapan nathi ke dikro pun nahi.LoveKarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12571096316753911282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-57918369100325891552012-04-16T01:38:03.699+05:302012-04-16T01:38:03.699+05:30@ IHM and Anonymous - Thanks for your views. Well ...@ IHM and Anonymous - Thanks for your views. Well I thought that dowry days are over!Vikram Waman Karvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-82533666161991664892012-04-16T00:11:28.080+05:302012-04-16T00:11:28.080+05:30Nice post...but as far as the comments I read reg....Nice post...but as far as the comments I read reg.property share,I have to ask a simple question"How many of them marry a woman without any dowry?? "Daughter's in law are treated with respect only if they come carrying mints(in form of jewels,bankacc,jobs-goers,etc).Also they do almost all your household jobs incl.nurturing a husband's future generations....Is'nt she have a right at-least to take care of her parents when they are old??<br /><br />Come On Guys....give her some spaceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-14984230656601389082012-04-15T20:13:45.924+05:302012-04-15T20:13:45.924+05:30Nice post, and I also agree with Anonymous.Nice post, and I also agree with Anonymous.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-57893513343558634972012-04-14T23:19:46.939+05:302012-04-14T23:19:46.939+05:30@ Compassion - You've got a nice traditional v...@ Compassion - You've got a nice traditional viewpoint - but must we not change and move ahead?Vikram Waman Karvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-10448819087813668412012-04-14T22:43:01.587+05:302012-04-14T22:43:01.587+05:30@ Uma - I read your very insightful post and quite...@ Uma - I read your very insightful post and quite agree that this is a dilemma<br />@ Anonymous - you do have a point regarding duties of a daughter-in-lawVikram Waman Karvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-11106055524785602372012-04-14T15:12:36.274+05:302012-04-14T15:12:36.274+05:30Hi Vikramji,
I am surprised over the fact we hit t...Hi Vikramji,<br />I am surprised over the fact we hit the nail upon with our posts.In a similar fashion, I wrote a theme <a href="http://perpetualthinkings.blogspot.co.uk/2012/04/are-your-parents-neglected.html" rel="nofollow">Do you neglect your parents ?</a> just weeks before.I also agree upon the fact that daughters do have responsibility over the parents..but how many of them agree ?Uma Anandanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11529447615364043190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-61227967892368252052012-04-14T08:54:52.093+05:302012-04-14T08:54:52.093+05:30I dont second the plot up there.
A daughter never...I dont second the plot up there. <br />A daughter never has any share of the property.. A property for a daughter is her husband's as well as her parents love which could never be returned as to what her parents have affectionately done for her. <br /><br />Yes, it doesn't seem right to parents staying at their daughter's house because they feel that it would be a debt for her. It just doesn't seem all settled. In the end, the way daughters could take care and comprehend emotions of their loved ones, sons never do. No matter how much a son is admired, a daughter remains a never changing soul. Even after getting married, she would dedicate her whole world to her parents. Because they are a huge gift bestowed !! Never to be forgotten... More precious than her husband and his family..compassion9981https://www.blogger.com/profile/03082493714206411285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4710313771389348282.post-75349771608214726172012-04-14T02:16:58.294+05:302012-04-14T02:16:58.294+05:30Perhaps you glossed over the fact that daughters d...Perhaps you glossed over the fact that daughters do have a responsibility -- towards their parents-in-law -- who are actually someone else's parents. I believe it is a much greater responsibility to look after someone else's parents than your own (because it is difficult to espouse the same feelings for them as for your own parents). When we talk about a son's responsibility towards his parents, it is actually expectations from their daughter-in-law who bears the burden of caring for them. It is true that parents actually expect very little from their sons, they mostly expect it from their daughters-in-law.<br /><br />And as far as share in property is concerned, daughters practically do not get property from their parents. And what they get from their husbands is anyone's guess, while they do have a right to both.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com